Did I handle this right?

posted 2 years ago in Parenting
Post # 17
527 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I agree with where you’re coming from, but it honestly sounds like the guy was trying to be kind because you said you didn’t have any extra cash right now. If the situation was different (your nephew/child was throwing a tantrum and you had put your foot down) then it would be absolutely undermining your parenting; however, in this situation I think you should let it go.

Post # 18
12108 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I’m so surprised at some of the answers in this day and age. It’s basically role modeling for children that it is OK to take gifts from strangers. It’s also OK to say no on the original point. I absolutely would have said no thanks. 

Post # 21
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I would have had him give it back: tell him we cannot accept gifts from strangers no matter how nice they are. 

I work with a special needs adult group and they are learning to budget and if they don’t have enough money, they can’t get it. Lots of people think they are helping by paying for it or offering money to help pay. It doesn’t really help, it’s nice of them but then they aren’t getting the point of budgeting. 

I would have been annoyed, refused the gift and said thank you but, no. 

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