(Closed) Did I include my Stepmom on our invitation?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

It should say the daughter of — your dads name and your moms name. 

 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I did not put my FI’s stepmom on the invite. It reads– his name, son of Mr. Dad’s Name and Ms. Mom’s Name. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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buzzing2adestination:  I didn’t include my husband’s stepmom on the invite. I did son of Mr ___ and Ms ___ with them on seperate lines. I was also going to go the “together with their families” route but my mom saw it and lost her mind. My dad died when I was young and she said his family wouldn’t go if his name wasn’t on the invite. I seriously doubt they wouldn’t have come but I made a choice to pick my battles and that wasn’t it lol. While googling I saw lots of examples of people including step parents on invites though.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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buzzing2adestination:  It’s fine to add the stepmother. but the mother’s name will go on the first line

 

Ms. Susan Smith
Mr. and Mrs. David Jacoby
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Michelle Katherine Jacoby
to
Michael Gavin Jones

son of

etc

http://www.womangettingmarried.com/proper-wedding-invitation-wording/

 

or you could use

Ms. Susan Smith
Mr. and Mrs. David Jacoby

and

Mr. and Mrs John Jones
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of
Michelle Katherine Jacoby
to
Michael Gavin Jones

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

This is why I am a fan of the phrase “Together with their families”…

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

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buzzing2adestination:  Seconding PP’s. Daughter of [mom and dad], and Son of [mom and dad]. Your stepmom should not be offended, it’s just to “remind” more distand friends and family who you are and why they’re invited.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think whether or not you include her name really depends on your relationship to you. Is she just your fathers wife, or is she a second parent to you. If you consider her a parent, then her name should be on the invitation as well. Perhaps, Daughter of Mom and Dad and Stepmom. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I like Julie1949 second alternative, as I do not like “their daugher” under mom, dad and SMs name, if you feel you must include SMs name.  I know that my father and SM do not share $$, she is contributing nothing, and I never lived in the same place with her, so it is just

Ms. Mom

Mr. Dad

 

blah blah blah

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

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Daisy_Mae:  It isn’t necessarilly true that the purpose is just to remind peopla who you are.  For example in the wording Jules1949 posted above it implies that the bride’s parents are hosting the wedding. If this is the case, and the Stepmom is hosting (i.e. money is coming out of Dad and Step Mom’s account) then Stepmom’s name should be included, and Mom should not have room to complain. 

 

Edit: 

Details with regard to who is hosting, including how to word for divorced parents. 

Wedding Invitation Etiquette

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 7 months ago by MakingHerWait.
Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

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MakingHerWait:  Yep, but the OP didn’t mention that anyone was hosting, which is why I didn’t recommend Julie’s wording. If the stepmom is hosting then yes, her name should be on the invitations.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Dear Daisy Mae,   many people who get married at an holder age do not share funds AND the host is not necessariy same as who pays.  

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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buzzing2adestination:  I think it would be very rude not to put your stepmom’s name on the invite, especially considering you apparently have a great relationship with her. Your mom will just have to deal with it, she’s an adult. Then again, I’m probably extra cut and dry about these situations because as a child of divorce nothing grates my nerve more than one parent having a pity party and making things about them. 

FWIW, my dad/stepmom (who I’m extreamly close and lived with) contributed a large chunk of money to my wedding – while my mom did not. Our invites listed my dad/stepmom as the “hosts” of the event, and my mom’s name was not on the invite at all. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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starfish0116:  

Either you have an unusual situation or you were rude.  In any event, for someone who did not put their mom’s name on the invite, I wouldn’t call someone rude for not putting SM name on. 

 

I get it, you do not like your mom.  Most people, even if mom just gave them a lucky penny would put the mom’s name on invite.

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