(Closed) Did I just get a timeline?? Excited!!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What do you think?
    That's totally a new timeline! : (0 votes)
    He just said it to shut you up. : (14 votes)
    38 %
    Has potential to be a true timeline, but don't get your hopes too high. : (21 votes)
    57 %
    I just like voting on polls :) : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Sounds good, but don’t hound him about it, dwell, or overanalyze. If he said maybe 2 years, he’s probably buying himself some time.

    Post # 5
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    29 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Well, be optimistic, but in my experience so far “1-2 years” has been manspeak for “Let’s wait and see what I feel comfortable with later” not “I’m making definite plans”. But I suppose you could take it as a timeline.

    Post # 6
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    475 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My fear for you darling is, “doesn’t mean that I won’t be in a year, or maybe two” – also doesn’t mean he will be either.

    Post # 7
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    870 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @PopRox:

    Yeah I tend to agree with this. He is giving himself a lot of leeway with the way he’s wording things. I’ve also gotten the “don’t talk to me about it because it’s supposed to be a surprise” but in my case it was more of a “I’m going to say something to make you stop talking about it because I don’t want to talk about it anymore.” maybe it’s not in your case but those two statements together make it sound more like he’s trying to buy himself so time…from you bringing it up as a topic of conversation.

    Post # 8
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    108 posts
    Blushing bee

    My bf did something similar but opposite. We are moving in together and we were talking about “the future”, and at one point he said we won’t be getting engaged in the next year… HMPH!

    Post # 9
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    1325 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m sorry, but I do not think that is a timeline at all. I know it’s great that he’s talking about it, and I really do think he’s trying to get you to stop bringing it up.

    A timeline is a specified time. When a guy says “a year, or maybe two” he’s being just as vague as “I don’t know” but throwing numbers in there to make it look like he’s not vague. You got the “someday” answer put into different words.

    It’s more like “Let’s see how I feel in a year or two.”

    Also, coupled with “you need to be quiet so you don’t ruin the surprise” really makes me think he’s just trying to quiet you down.

    This guy isn’t planning on proposing for at least a year and you asking about getting engaged right now is going to ruin the surprise? Sure…..if he was close to propose you asking so much take away the surprise element…. but he’s not going to be proposing soon so you’re not ruining a surprise. 

     

    Post # 10
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    121 posts
    Blushing bee

    I don’t know how much he was trying to “shut you up” but I DO agree that he’s just buying time… butttttt  my Fiance said that to me, and 1 1/2 years later, proposed!  So, just take it for what it is and let it go…for now! lol   I am happy I didn’t push for it thru that time, I just let it go, until the beginning of this past December…and when I did bring it up, it was a “what do you want for Christmas Nik” and a “just a ring”  LOL  He bought it, but I didn’t get it til March!!!  Patience and perserverance is the way to go!! good luck Tongue out

    Post # 11
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    1325 posts
    Bumble bee

    @nikkiinmass: You are right. I forgot to specify that it doesn’t mean that in these next two years or so his feelings wont change. He could very well naturally come around and want to propose sometime in the next couple of years.

    However as of RIGHT NOW, with what he said, he wasn’t giving you a timeline. As of right now, he doesn’t know.

    Post # 12
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    121 posts
    Blushing bee

    @Tunacupcakes:

    I understand that, but my guy said the same thing…… point is he didn’t say “I don’t know”  or “not happening”  He’s at least open to having her think that in a couple of years it could go down.  Obviously he’s not trying to marry her now, or be engaged, but he’s also not running for the hills… that’s always a positive! lol  I wouldn’t take what he said as a timeline exactly BUT, I would be bringing it up in a year and 1/2… not a second before  lol 

    Post # 13
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    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    In my experience, men say exactly what they mean.  Sorry, but I do think that you are over analyzing what he said.  Be patient, and enjoy the now.

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