Did I make a big mistake on my marriage license? I can't stop crying

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 91
58 posts
Worker bee

 Mariage liscences typically expire within 90 days. You can let yours expire and apply for a new one. 

Post # 92
746 posts
Busy bee

 ericarenee427 :  See the post by MsArt :  …if you really want to get a new license, it seems like it should be possible!

Post # 93
477 posts
Helper bee

ericarenee427 :  you are really freaking out over a very small issue that may or may not come up in the future? HOw do you handle other much more stressful things? I hope this is just prewedding stress. 

It isn’t that big of a deal. $400 isn’t pocket change but it’s not a huge ridiculous amount. And it’s an amount that you don’t even know if you will pay because you haven’t even decided to change your name!

Take a deep breath! Everything is going to be fine!  

Post # 94
3275 posts
Sugar bee

In CA, it is against the law for county employees to give legal advice. I would report the clerk, especially since she gave you poor information.

There is a ton of misinformation in this thtead. I urge you read the Name Equality Act of 2007 and FAQ published by the state of CA instead of relying on anything you have seen here.


Post # 95
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

ericarenee427 :  I’ve never heard of this. When we did our marriage license, it’s all in my maiden name. When we are married, I just have to go to social security and change my name there, not on my marriage license. I’m not sure why California gives you such nonsensical regulations, like a court hearing. 

Post # 96
236 posts
Helper bee

MrsCoffeeSnob :  ^^^ This for me too. Maiden name on license, Social Security office to change the name. (This didn’t change what was on the license though, that was still the maiden name as it should be since that was who I was when we applied.) I still have things I use my maiden name for. No big deal.

Post # 97
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

franklymydearidont :  What she is saying is that if your passport was issued more than a year ago, even if you got married yesterday, there is a fee to replace it.  That does not negate your experience.  When I got married I looked into it and I would have had to pay a fee, and I hadn’t been married a year yet.  Your post mentioned that you always have a year from getting married to change it for free, and that is not correct.

Post # 98
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

Marriage license surnames are not official until you get your name officially changed at Social Security, which is why the people suggested you just put his surname whether you plan to change your last name or not, especially if it is a decision you are not yet sure about. I don’t think $400 is worth the name change. I’d just keep my last name and tell the husband to suck it. >:( 

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