(Closed) Did I pick the right MOH? Need Advice!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Welp….I had the exact same issue, except my BFF had been my friend since grade school….. my advice, make one Maid/Matron of Honor and one matron of honor (assuming sis in law is married to bro already)….. 

Post # 4
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@lanny: This is a bit tough since you already asked your junior high school friend to be your Maid/Matron of Honor. Personally, I would have waited to see if you two would have remained close since she has moved far from you since you still have a year til your wedding. Have you considered asking your new SIL to be your Matron of Honor?

From the moment I got engaged I knew my best friend since high school would be my Maid/Matron of Honor. We have a great relationship but we have different tastes (she’s extravnagant and I’m simple). My Maid/Matron of Honor has not been as involved in the wedding planning because my mom and Fiance are very involved in it and I love it. I love that Fiance is involved in everything because it’s our day and we both have an idea as to how we want our special day to be. As for my mom, I know she wouldn’t dream of missing out in planning for our wedding. However, I’m sure my Maid/Matron of Honor will become more involved now that my wedding date is coming closer.

Post # 6
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Maid of Honor is someone who isn’t married and Matron of Honor is someone who is married.

 

Post # 7
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1725 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You could have one Maid of Honor and one Matron of Honor. Your friend would still have the “honor” of that title and can help when she can, and your SIL will be there helping you probably more often and will be close by

Post # 8
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Don’t put so many expectations on the moh. No one really is required to do anything for your wedding. You should have the people you love most, not the person who can help the most. Don’t let it stress you out, and don’t let it ruin the friendship. Stick with the friend you asked, and understand that she is who she is. 

You can talk to her about punctuality on certain things (like appointments) and ask that she try to show up on time. I’m usually late (no matter wht I try), but if I know it’s an important appointment or something, I leave 30 minutes early so I know I’ll be on time. She probably knows she has a problem, so hopefully won’t be offended by you talking to her about that. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

msfuturea  hehe, yeah what you said Wink

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