Post # 1
I need help- one of my sisters just laid in to me because we have chosen to get married on my youngest sister’s birthday. My youngest sister is not returning my phone calls, including the one saying that our original date, April 24, would not work because I had miscalculated our weekend work schedule and were looking at the 17th, which is her birthday.
I got engaged on Sunday, and I didn’t set out to get married on her birthday. As we started our search, we realized our options between May and July were extremely limited due to previous bookings. We work every other weekend, which also limits options. At this point in our lives, we aren’t looking for a long engagement. My sisters and I range in age from 29 to 34 (I’m the oldest) and we live in 3 states so don’t see each other often. I didn’t realize this would create such a fuss…should I stick to the date or change it? What would you do? Would you be upset?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Don’t change it just because another sister gave you a hard time. My step-sister got married on my brother’s birthday, and they sang happy birthday to him on the dance floor at one point. A friend of mine got married on her dad’s birthday; they sang to him too and gave him a birthday cupcake separate from the wedding cake. So what if she has to share one birthday in her life with a wedding? It’s, like, the biggest birthday party she can have!
Post # 4
I’m getting married on someone’s birthday, and she got so mad at me she said I’ve ruined the idea of her birthday. But we aren’t changing our date. Granted it is different because it’s your sister but you have already said your options are low. If you can get a hold of your sister see what she has to say about it and go from there. = )
Post # 5
It’s your sister and she seems upset. I would def try my hardest to change it, because she’ll hold that agaisnt you for the rest of your life…and for what? cuz you got married on her birthday. I don’t think that’s a good reason…until you have tried talking to your boss to see if you can switch weekends, try getting married on a fri instead of that weekend, or look for another venue. If you really, really, really unable to come up with a different plan, than tlak to your sister…but if she is avoiding you already I think it has really offended her.
I would change it to avoid problems.
Post # 6
Will she be 30 on her birthday? Can you call and let her know you want her to help you pick out the birthday cake for her that will be part of the desserts? That may warm her up to the idea. Personally I would love it. My aunt and uncle were married on my 3rd birthday and I was the flower girl (except I didn’t walk and bawled). However, I loved that and felt so connected to them my entire life because I felt they choose that date for me :D… Isn’t that egotistical?
Post # 7
Are birthday’s really that important that you won’t answer your sister’s phone call? Personally, I really wouldn’t care, but maybe that’s just me! Nevertheless, if it is her 30th birthday, maybe she had already considered doing something for “her” day.
Have you thought about having the wedding on April 3?
Post # 8
I would be honored if you wanted to get married on my birthday!! It’ll always be a celebration we could do together as a family!
Post # 9
What? This is insane! Your sister sounds spoiled and ridiculous. It would never even OCCUR to me to be mad if someone got married on my birthday! Thats a total sister-zilla move to pull and I’d tell her so. The world doesn’t revolve around her and her birthday. Unless she’s 6, I thought birthdays weren’t a huge deal for adults anyway.
Post # 10
Oops- she’ll be turning 29, so it is not the big 3-0 and she hasn’t even gone out to dinner on her last 2 birthdays. Changing work schedules only means working the 3 weekends in a row before or after the wedding and Friday night doesn’t work because everyone, including myself and the groom have to travel to the wedding. We live 8 hours- in opposite direction from each of our families. Not to make me sound wonderful, but I went home multiple times for her wedding planning and did several DIY projects for her wedding (granted she didn’t get married on my birthday).
I do like the idea of a cake and happy birthday singing idea, that is if she is speaking to me by then!
Post # 11
How old is your sister? If she is older than, let’s be generous and say 21, she needs to grow up and get over herself. Seriously. Don’t change your date if it’s not convenient for you – it’ll be a learning experience for her! You could do something special for her at the rehearsal dinner, like a cake or something, and if she continues to pout slap a tiara on her head so she feel special 🙂
Post # 12
I don’t understand why she’d need to be upset. I think it’d be great fun if my sister got married on my birthday. You could even do a little something special for her – a toast or mention in your program or something along those lines.
Post # 13
Hmm, that’s kind of hard for me. If this was a friend or cousin, who cares? But a sister? Well all of your anniversaries will be on her birthday too. So if she likes to hang out with you on her birthday, you’ll have to choose her party or your anniversary dinner everytime. (Although it doesn’t exactly sounds like she does that much for her birthdays… So maybe she shouldn’t get bent out of shape.)
Well maybe she was planning something fun for this one. I’m kind of on the fence. But I think if it was me, I’d try to avoid her birthday, unless it was absolutely necessary. Otherwise you could offer up a little of your reception for a fun happy birthday song and cake.
Post # 14
I think if changing is a possibility at all, you might want to consider it, but I do think that your sister is overreacting.
Post # 15
my cousin actually got married on my 25th birthday. i was helping her a good amount up until the night before because she had a short engagement that i actually forgot it was my birthday until my bf and some of my cousins who were downstairs playing games came up to wish me a happy birthday at midnight! on the day of, i was really excited about the wedding that i forgot again. i think it would’ve been nice if everyone sang happy birthday to me, and my cousin said that was their intention, but with all the excitement for the day, they forgot too! well, like they say, it’s the thought that counts! i think changing it would depend on your sister’s whose birthday it is. for me, it doesn’t really matter. people are still going to celebrate my birthday next year, and the year after, and the year after. i did get to go to disneyland that day in between the ceremony and the reception!
Post # 16
while i don’t think it’s a huge deal, your sister obviously does and i don’t feel like it’s worth it to hurt your relationship with her. i would try to change it.