Post # 1
I was telling my SIL about how I used to joke about going on the show The Bachelor just to travel the world before making up some excuse to bail. Then she said I should say that “all my good eggs are shriveling up and dying, and I need to find a man NOW” because apparently that was what one girl on the show had actually said when she left.
I don’t want to just assume that she was directing the comment at me personally, but ever since turning 30, the baby comments have been happening a LOT, and I’m not even married, much less TTC!
I also have two older sisters who actually are married, but I’m pretty sure they don’t want kids so now I feel like everyone’s shifting their focus to me as the “last hope” of being the baby producer of the family, UGH.
I don’t know if I’m just reading too into things, but it feels like so much pressure, and I really hate it!
Post # 2
It sounds like your SIL was sharing a joke that someone else made which could have been pointed at you but also, what’s the point of digging into that? It’s just going to annoy and irritate you. Also, if you are getting older and planning to have children, it will be something people will ask you about. (Trust me, speaking from personal experience)
I would come up with a series of funny (to myself) smart alec responses to these questions or just tell people to leave you alone.
“Every time you ask a woman about her baby plans, a bottle of wine falls of a shelf and is destroyed.”
“Do you want to tell me about your husband’s ED?”
“Have you guys tried Viagra?”
“Are you asking so that you can rearrange your schedule for indefinite babysitting?”
“We’re having plenty of fun practicing, but thanks for your support!”
My husband and I have been planning for more than 3 years and, when he announced to his family that I had gone off birth control (during a family dinner- they have absolute shit boundaries) I promptly responded “Are you going to invite them to my gyno appointments as well?”
So, I love that one:
“I’m not pregnant yet, but would you like to accompany me to my next gyno appt and ask the doctor your burning questions?” (just be careful of people who will say yes!)
Post # 3
TwilightRarity : But I don’t even know if I want kids, and it’s certainly not something I’ve ever discussed with her. But great comebacks for future reference!
Post # 4
Yes, you read too much into it. And no, I would not recommend being rude, thoughtless, or insensitive in return. Life is so much easier if comments like this can be taken in the spirit in which they were probably intended, instead of getting upset about it.Give her the benefit of the doubt.
Post # 5
You’re reading too much into it (likely).
Post # 6
julies1949 : That’s what I wanted to believe and how I ultimately think it was intended. It may just have been the combination of that comment with the others I’ve been getting. But great advice! Better to just let it be like water off a duck’s back!
Post # 7
I think you’re reading too much into it — I’m not even that into the Bachelor, but I totally remember the “my eggs are rotting” lady from years ago. It was a pretty great moment.
Post # 8
paigelove : If you were joking about going on the Bachelor, then your SIL most likely assumed that you had watched a lot of seasons of the Bachelor. The moment she mentioned was such an iconic moment that happened a long time ago but is still considered one of the most embarrassing things to have happened on that show!
Everyone knows that the producers of the bachelor like drama and try to pick contestants who will bring drama to the show. More drama = more people watching = better ratings. So if you said you wanted to be on the show, that’s why your SIL suggested you say something crazy like that.
In short, yes I do think you are reading too much into this.
TheGridMonster : Yeah I also remember her, she was off her rocker. I just looked it up, apparently it happened over 10 years ago, but I haven’t forgotten it.