(Closed) Did I ruin a potentially good thing???

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
Member
811 posts
Busy bee

xpretyNpinkStarx:  Yes it seems so unhealthy!! We were both younger though, just starting college so it seems to make the most sense in that situation. I honestly would’ve just been friends from the start and stayed friends because he was a cool guy. Which I think is the problem- they might not know how to “just have friends”, and it goes too far to a point of no return where they just never talk to you again. But in the end we won 🙂

Post # 47
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

There is an old saying that goes “when someone tells you who they are, believe them”. 

The guy you were dating was telling you who he was by saying (and warning you) that he loses interest in women after he sleeps with them too soon, or that he gets “bored easily”. He was basically setting you up to be let down, all while letting himself off the hook by being able to say “well, I was honest right from the get-go with her about what my intentions were”.

You may have overreacted, but I wouldn’t feel too badly about it. The guy basically seems like a committment-phobe and justifies it to himself by warning the women he dates ahead of time that he is this way.

He will do it to the next chick after you, then the one after that, then the one after that, which if why i really don’t think you should take it too personally or over-analyze what happened. You deserve better, and better is definitely out there!

Post # 48
Member
134 posts
Blushing bee

Am i the only one who thinks he’s gay, not out at work, and needed a date for the company holiday party? Sounds like he’s got this procedure down to a science.

Post # 49
Member
235 posts
Helper bee

You two were seeing each other casually for a month. He’s not even worth stressing about. Save your energy for a more worthy endeavor and just forget this insignificant guy.

Post # 50
Member
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

xpretyNpinkStarx:  You didn’t ruin it. He ruined it when he said “but I think you like me more.” What?!?! NEXT

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