did i ruin my life? Help!

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

No, you can just say the position and responsibilities did not turn out as expected and you decided to move on to other opportunities. Happens all the time.  No need to take abuse like that.

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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girlfromtexas1088 :  Good for you, I hope you find a better new job soon. I’m confused about why you would send your fiance pictures of you crying though. Not sure that’s healthy tbh. Regarding your resume, PP’s wording sounds good.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

That sounds terrible, bee, I’m so sorry. Gives me flashbacks to The Devil Wears Prada… *shudders*.

I’m in a similar situation in that I was in a job I really didn’t like, and I planned to quit 2 months before my wedding so I could devote more energy to that, and then I was unfortunately laid off. I have been trying to use this time to be productive and get wedding planning stuff done, and job search on the side as well. 

Hopefully you can use this time to do both! Good luck! 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

Just let them know that the position and responsibilities didn’t turn out as expected

Post # 6
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2018

This happens fairly often, and HR professionals are aware that sometimes places aren’t a good fit. No decent employer with a good company culture is going to penalize you for making the right decision for you. You’ll find another job – don’t worry. There’s the perfect job for you out there, and you won’t have to be miserable for it. Good luck!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Onto better things! Enjoy wedding planning!

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Good for you for getting out! No one needs a soul sucking job like that. As others have said, you can be politely vague about wanting to seek out a new opportunity or something like that. Luckily a job for life is not an expectation these days, people often move on for loads of reasons. Good luck and it sounds like you’ll be loads happier when the dust settles 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate

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girlfromtexas1088 :  Wow sorry bee. I was previously at a company that I loved so many things about, but it was a very toxic environment. One of my ex-coworkers quit and sent an email to a few of us that she was friends with afterwards. One part of it mentioned how she was so happy to escape the “pyschological torture camp”. 

Good for you for getting out of that, it is very debilitating. I agree with 

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chocolateplease :  in her verbiage recommendation.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

It sounds like you made the right choice. Good luck wedding planning! 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I did something similar. At interviews I simply said that the fit just was not right between me and the company. When pushed for some more info by one interviewer, I said I didn’t really want to speak bad about a previous employer, but I then simply provided him with stats about the company’s SUPER HIGH turnover rate. I know that last bit was petty, but I wanted to establish that the company sucked not me (plus, the guy ended up hiring me… so I guess it worked out). 

If work / life balance is important to you, it might be a good way to bring that up in an interview too. Mention you used to work 7AM-past midnight regularly, and while you’re always happy to put in extra hours when things get busy…you’re looking for a job that requires those hours perhaps occasionally, but not daily. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

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chocolateplease :  “the position and responsibilities did not turn out as expected and you decided to move on to other opportunities. “

That’s a great way to put it.

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