Post # 1
hi bees! So I’ve been complaining before but I finally did it. I quit my horrendous job. I was a designer at a very big fashion house, but was told I couldn’t take the Friday off before my wedding. I was told no bachelorette because I had to be “on call” every weekend. My boss was a bit older than me and very cruel, so she would make me come in on the weekends just to sit there. It was basically a bizarre power thing.
I would cry cry every day. I would literally send my Fiance pictures of me crying because my boss would make me go get her groceries (I would pay, and not even get reimbursed!) I am a 34 year old woman, and not even an assistant! I would work often 7 AM until 1 or 2 AM. Not even because I had a lot of work. I would finish my work early because I’m pretty good at my job. My boss would just tell me I couldn’t leave until she said so. It almost felt abusive.
anyway, needless to say, I have not done anything for my fairly large wedding. So, at the urging of my wonderful fiancé, I quit. I waited until I was there about 7 months, and I gave my two weeks notice. They gave me a party. Now I am unemployed and able to plan my wedding.
Heres the tough part – what do I tell future employers when I interview for a job? Did I ruin my life by not staying there?
Post # 2
No, you can just say the position and responsibilities did not turn out as expected and you decided to move on to other opportunities. Happens all the time. No need to take abuse like that.
Post # 3
Good for you, I hope you find a better new job soon. I’m confused about why you would send your fiance pictures of you crying though. Not sure that’s healthy tbh. Regarding your resume, PP’s wording sounds good.
Post # 4
That sounds terrible, bee, I’m so sorry. Gives me flashbacks to The Devil Wears Prada… *shudders*.
I’m in a similar situation in that I was in a job I really didn’t like, and I planned to quit 2 months before my wedding so I could devote more energy to that, and then I was unfortunately laid off. I have been trying to use this time to be productive and get wedding planning stuff done, and job search on the side as well.
Hopefully you can use this time to do both! Good luck!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
Just let them know that the position and responsibilities didn’t turn out as expected
Post # 6
This happens fairly often, and HR professionals are aware that sometimes places aren’t a good fit. No decent employer with a good company culture is going to penalize you for making the right decision for you. You’ll find another job – don’t worry. There’s the perfect job for you out there, and you won’t have to be miserable for it. Good luck!
Post # 7
oh my, I’m so sorry you were in a similar situation but it really sounds like it was for the best! At least you have the time now to plan, right!? You’ll find something soon I bet!
Post # 8
ah! Im so sorry. Taken out of context I’m sure that sounded bizarre! I just wanted to keep a record of all the times my boss was outright awful and would make me cry, so I would take a crying selfie just to keep track. Lame I know ! Just to show my fiancé how actually insane it was there.
Post # 9
Onto better things! Enjoy wedding planning!
Post # 10
Good for you for getting out! No one needs a soul sucking job like that. As others have said, you can be politely vague about wanting to seek out a new opportunity or something like that. Luckily a job for life is not an expectation these days, people often move on for loads of reasons. Good luck and it sounds like you’ll be loads happier when the dust settles 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate
Wow sorry bee. I was previously at a company that I loved so many things about, but it was a very toxic environment. One of my ex-coworkers quit and sent an email to a few of us that she was friends with afterwards. One part of it mentioned how she was so happy to escape the “pyschological torture camp”.
Good for you for getting out of that, it is very debilitating. I agree with chocolateplease :
in her verbiage recommendation.
Post # 12
It sounds like you made the right choice. Good luck wedding planning!
Post # 14
I did something similar. At interviews I simply said that the fit just was not right between me and the company. When pushed for some more info by one interviewer, I said I didn’t really want to speak bad about a previous employer, but I then simply provided him with stats about the company’s SUPER HIGH turnover rate. I know that last bit was petty, but I wanted to establish that the company sucked not me (plus, the guy ended up hiring me… so I guess it worked out).
If work / life balance is important to you, it might be a good way to bring that up in an interview too. Mention you used to work 7AM-past midnight regularly, and while you’re always happy to put in extra hours when things get busy…you’re looking for a job that requires those hours perhaps occasionally, but not daily.
Post # 15
chocolateplease : “the position and responsibilities did not turn out as expected and you decided to move on to other opportunities. “
That’s a great way to put it.