(Closed) Did I ruin the surprise

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
781 posts
Busy bee

@otto2008:  no!!! Not later! Do it earlier if you want to surprise her. If she’s expecting it on V day and you don’t do it, she will likely be pretty bummed out to say the least.

Post # 4
3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@otto2008:  Or what you could do is wait until the morning after V-Day! 

Make V-day really normal and maybe do dinner and then the morning after wake her up to some breakfast, flowers, and a gorgeous proposal 🙂 


Post # 5
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@otto2008:  Did she see the ring too? Was that supposed to be a surprise? I agree with everyone else…throw her off by doing it before Vday or have a super romantic breakfast the next day (though that could kind of sour Vday for her if she is expecting it.)

Post # 6
1411 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@otto2008:  I found out when my Fiance was proposing a week in advance,  and I don’t regret that at all! I got to be really excited leading up to it, and the details were still all a surprise, and it made it so much easier on my Fiance, who has anxiety. 🙂

It all depends on your girlfriend. Do you think she’d appreciate being proposed to on Valentine’s Day or a surprise more? I love surprises, but I also love looking forward to things. And personally I like that he did it on kind of a random date, because now it’ll always be a special date to me, but I can’t say an extra-special Valentine’s Day proposal would be a horrible thing.

Whatever you decide, I’m sure it’ll be one of the happiest moments of her life!

Post # 7
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I dont know if she saw that part or not, if it were me I would be focused on trying to scan for details or pictures of the ring. If she did see that you were going to propose on Vday, I dont think you should propose AFTER Vday. I think if anything you should propose on Vday like you planned, or before to suprise her. If I found out that my SO was going to propose on a certain day and he didnt I would probably panic and wonder why he didnt. If She is expecting a proposal on vday and does not get one it may be upsetting for her.

Post # 8
3210 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Future_Mrs_Dr_I:  agreed! Doing it later would be torture if she knows you were planning it for a specific day. 


Catch her off guard a day or two before V day.

Post # 9
931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

definitely earlier! The sooner the better! If she is expecting VDay she will be shocked if it is WAAAAY sooner!

Post # 10
4698 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would do it before Valentines Day, both to throw her off (if she saw) and because Valentines Day proposals are so.. expected.

Post # 12
517 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Definitely don’t wait until after Vday. Propose on Vday or before.

I was expecting a proposal on our 6 year anniversary and when it didn’t happen I was so upset. The next day I couldn’t hold the tears in and SO knew what was wrong. He said I had the worst timing (for getting upset) because he was planning on asking me that night, so I ruined it 🙁

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