(Closed) Should I have let her come to my wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
2949 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Definitely not in the wrong – and I’m glad that you’ve stuck to your guns and decided not to reward her rudeness with an invitation

Post # 33
3755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

In some situations I would say, let him bring a different +1 if his gf cannot attend. HOWEVER, in this situation he’s bringing someone that he knows you know and deliberately did NOT invite. She’s obviously a drama queen and giving in and letting her come sounds like it would lead to disaster. Stick to your guns!! 

Post # 34
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


Exactly.  The fact that she is so desperate to go to your wedding, even though she is not close to you, should send off an alarm.  You stated that she had some feelings for your FI?? Um yeah, have security ready at the door…

Post # 35
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@bebero:  I think if she wants to avoid drama she she tell this woman that she is absolutely not invited, using whatever reasoning gets through to her. Better to get the drama out of the way before the wedding than during it!

Post # 36
7371 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Hell no you aren’t wrong. And she had the audacity to text you??? Good riddance. Do not engage any further, you have both said your peace. What a looney bird.

Post # 37
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Helllll no. Bitch is cray.

Post # 38
2743 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

She’s rude for imposing and expecting you should invite her. Just say no.

Post # 39
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Eww no.  I’d just say sorry my mom said NO! Lol.  My mom didn’t even host the wedding but she’d happily tell a crazy off if I needed her to.

Post # 40
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@imabridesmaid:  My thoughts exactly. A girl who once had feelings for the groom is DESPERATE to go to the wedding? Why do I have this feeling that she won’t sit through the “Speak now or forever hold your peace” part? OP, if you allow this woman to come to your wedding, you’re setting yourself up for disaster. Even if she doesn’t “do” anything, it’s still a situation you’re going to be stressing out, and that’s the last thing you need.

Why do guests feel like they have the right to control the guest list anyway? That’s just odd. It’s your day, your celebration; you decide who you want to be there. Period.

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