(Closed) Did I totally blow a 'rule' out of the water?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

umm no. I think it’s the epitome of rudeness and lacking in class to ask for money. There is a more discrete way to do that. Also don’t register for things you don’t want and need.

Post # 4
2226 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

It does seem a bit inconsistent. As a guest I’d wonder why you bothered registering for such luxurious gifts if you just wanted cash. Furthermore, I don’t think that kind of line belongs anywhere on an invite. We wanted cash for our wedding; our moms spread the word & that’s what we got. Either way decide what you want and get rid of that line!

Post # 5
1185 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Never ever ask for money.  Also, why did you register if you don’t want physical gifts?

Post # 6
8679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It is in poor taste to put that on the invite, yes.

Post # 7
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsRugbee:  Agreed. Listing where you are registered and then putting a line about giving cash instead of gifts would both confuse and irritate me.

Post # 8
2559 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yea I wouldn’t do that. I verbally told people almost exactly that sentiment when they asked what we really wanted, which is probably also rude, but that was off-the-cuff honesty – I am not a fan of putting it out there on the invitations. Wrong place, IMO.

Post # 9
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@hiroshymatetrastar:  If you have everything then just say that you do not require a gift but would just enjoy their presence etc….. some peeps will prob still give you something, probably cash or something unique…I think it is rude though to mention cash etc on the invite…I know how you feel though as we are in the same boat…we are just telling peeps to bring no gifts…if we get something then great and if not then thats ok as we arent getting married to receive something.

Post # 11
541 posts
Busy bee

Dont do it!!!!!!!! Tell your parents you want cash, because people will ask them what to get you, and they can make it seem like giving good advice to the guests instead of you  appauling them with greedy cash demands.

Post # 12
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I personally would love to read that. I would respect the fact that you don’t really need anything material, AND it saves me having to do the work of looking through your registry >.<

I just kind of assume that everyone else is like me, and they just want to give cash anyway, but don’t want to look lazy so they try and go for something else! But, apparently this is not good etiquette according to most bees here!!!

Post # 13
9114 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Nope. Not offensive to me.

I’ve had this debate before: If you buy someone a 50 dollar toaster, you’ve given them 50 dollars. Why is it such a big deal what form it manifests itself into? 50 dollar toaster, or 50 dollars cash.

No big deal to me.

Post # 14
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Hmmm… I think sometimes asking for cash can be kind of iffy, but I respect that you guys don’t really need homemaking ‘stuff.’

I think the part that is rather rude is putting it on the invitation itself. it’s traditionally always bad etiquette to mention any gifts whatsoever on the wedding invitation.

Post # 16
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That’s a pretty big no-no. I wouldn’t be offended, per se, but I would definitely think less of you for putting a cash request on your invite. I’m sorry! It’s just my opinion! I don’t want to be offensive, that would honestly be my first reaction!

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