Post # 1
Ok ladies its been awhile since I have been on here but I am really freaking myself out. So invitations went out and I decided to have the ceremony start at 5p. Wedding is August..in TX and the ceremony is outside. Crazy, I know. I figured 5 was the latest I could have it and it not be as hot. So Im thinking of timelines and now Im wondering if 5 is too late. We have the venue from 8 am until midnight. Clean up will start at 11. I plan on having a buffet style dinner. How long was your ceremony?
This is what I was thinking:
cocktail hour 5:30-6:30
then I started to panic…IM having my DJ for four hours…and with all the stuff you do at wedding: toasts, welcome speeches, announcing of the bridal party, first dance, cake cutting…how do I fit all this in? Anyone have examples of how their day went or will go… preferably similar to mine so I can calm myself?
ETA: changed times
Post # 3
@clarwar: My ceremony began at 6 p.m., and my reception was scheduled until 11 p.m. My ceremony went until about 7:10 p.m., when the hors d’oeuvres hour began. Our timeline ended up derailing so I wouldn’t pattern yours after mine, but I thought my experience may be helpful to you. My dinner was supposed to begin around 8 p.m. but, because we were late with the ceremony and taking formal bridal pics, and getting ready for introductions, we didn’t actually have our toasts until 9 p.m., with dinner served thereafter. I went upstairs to freshen up after dinner and had no idea it was 10 p.m. by that point, and my Darling Husband and I still had not had time to dance with our respective parents or greet our guests or take family photos. Long story short, we hurriedly danced with our parents, cut our cake, and went outside for family pictures, and our wedding was over. I actually missed out on my own wedding reception. It was heartbreaking for me. So, just be sure that you leave yourself enough time.
Post # 4
@Brielle: This is exactly why I am paying for unlimited rental. I can have the venue from 10 am til sunrise but I don’t want to miss those precious moments.
I am so sad for you.
Post # 5
@clarwar: Yikes, Texas heat in summer….I hope it does not get too hot.
Post # 6
@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon: Thank you. I was so sad for me, too, lol.
I cried and cried and cried over this for months. I just kept going over and over it in my head, all during my honeymoon and for months thereafter, knowing that there was no possible way to “fix” it, and yet, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. What was particularly upsetting is that I didn’t marry until very late in life, and I had looked forward to my wedding for decades, and my parents spent tens of thousands of dollars, and everyone ELSE had a fantastic time. I, on the other hand, missed so much and truly grieved over this.
On the other hand, our ceremony was so beautiful and so meaningful! Since it obviously was the most important part of our night, I’m very thankful that I was able to savor that. 🙂
Unfortunately, I could not have rented my venue for the entire day unless I was willing to commit to paying for two weddings, since my venue booked two weddings per day at the facility. I also wanted to have a formal, evening wedding and knew that I could not properly have my bridesmaids and the mothers in long dresses or my FI/DH and the groomsmen in after-six formalwear if my wedding started prior to 6 p.m.
Post # 7
@Brielle: I’m really happy you had such a wonderful ceremony as I do believe that is the most important part of the wedding.
If I were you, I would have a recommitment ceremony later on and have a great party!
Post # 8
That sucks that you missed your reception! At least the most important part was wonderful. Thats what my fear is, technically I could change my times. We have our venue from 8 am until midnight…but I would just have to make sure all the guests are notified and that seems like a pain. The TX heat makes me panic a bit. When we booked, we booked for October but it started to seem like a conflict of everyone coming to Austin. The majority of our guests, including parents, siblings etc, will be traveling from Houston and Fort Worth. So our vendor let us move it to another month and with avoiding the peak months and what was open…it was either August or December. And I refused to pay extra for a saturday which runs at least 2000 more than a weekday or a sunday. So I figured at least August is the summer and kids will be out, we have alot of teachers in the family so that just seemed logical. Plus the thought of standing outside in the cold wasn’t too appealing to me. Our venue coordinator assured us it wouldnt be bad to have the ceremony outside or we could have it inside. So I will be prepared with fans and plenty of water for everyone….but since today was 100…it makes me weary. lol
Post # 9
1. Have your toasts and speeches (and not too many, please) in between courses. Nothing’s really happening at that time anyway.
2. Don’t announce your bridal party if you don’t really want to. Everyone knows who they are, since they stood up front with you for 25 minutes. Do a programme and put their names and relationship to you in it.
3. First dance opens the dancing, so that’s 3 minutes MAX. You can also have your emcee/dj invite your guests to join you partway through the song, if you REALLY want to move things along.
4. If you’re doing a receiving line, have it only be you and your husband, to speed things up. Everyone will congratulation/greet your bridal party/immediate family throughout the cocktail/reception.
5. Cake cutting can happen right when you enter the reception if you want. Someone could toast the new couple “happy future, blending of a new family blah blah blah…” and then you cut that sucker right then and there. Bam!
6. Alternatively, if you’re serving it later in the evening, cut it right before your first dance to maximize photo-op time for the camera-happy guests. Segue to first dance. Bam!
Post # 10
@clarwar: If I were you, I would do your first dance immediately after being introduced, and your cake cutting after that! A bonus to getting those done early is your photographer will be there to capture those shots for sure!