Did it sting when your ex spouse remarried?

posted 4 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

marine15 :  I remember you.  honestly he is a shitty person and you deserve so much better. I wouldnt even go to the friends wedding, I’d just send my best wishes with a gift. In your shoes id steer clear of them and cut all contact with him. If you live in a really small town I would move somewhere new for a fresh start. Maybe it’s time to shake things up. Best of luck 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

He left you but do you mean he cheated on you? Either way, it is perfectly natural to feel regret or hurt when someone you loved in the past moves on with his or her life. I suggest you don’t have any contact with him. It sounds like this is only occasional in your situation but it will not help you with moving on at all.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

It will sting for a while and you should stay away from him. Agree with pp, do not go to the wedding.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

marine15 :  I remember you as well! Your feelings are completely natural, though you are so so SOOOO much better off!

I was in a really f*cked up relationship for many years, and always assumed if we broke up that I’d be devastated if he married someone else. But then I met my now husband. And after a few months with him, I began to grow more and more unfazed by my ex (though he was clearly TRYING to mess with my head the weeks leading up to my Darling Husband proposed to me). I think there being a bit of weirdness in my situation is natural, but if I were to find out he was getting married I think I’d be surprised but it wouldn’t bother me! I’m just so much happier. And I’m several more years removed than you. Time will help you. <3

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

marine15 :  Wow, I was thinking about you earlier today bee, wondering how you were doing.  I’m so happy you’re in a better place.  Your feeling are completely normal given the circumstances.  Just continue to heal and keep contact low whenever you can.  

One day I promise, you’ll wake up and the thought of him won’t phase you at all or hear his name and be surprised that you feel nothing.  Just give it more time.

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

My gosh. I remember your thread. You’ve been through hell. Of course you feel sad and bitter – this is a fresh wound still. I would 100% cut all contact and take care of yourSELF. Who gives a rip about this POS that was conversing/meeting up with his ex and hiding it from HIS WIFE?! Your time and emotional energy are worth more. So sorry. Practice some self-compassion by not engaging with him AT ALL and, when you’re ready, channeling the energy behind the sadness into doing something amazing for yourself. Hugs to you. Continue on the healing path ❤️

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Middle of last year was really not very long ago.  I think you’re feelings are pretty reasonable.  I’m sorry you’re going through this.  Try to cut contact as much as possible.  It will help. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

What is wrong with people? Why did he get married to you if he was not over his ex, only to then cheat and go back to get engaged/married to her? What an asshole and I would say good riddance. Did you seek any professional help? Just wondering because it can help you move on.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

It is not unusual to feel the way you are feeling. Just keep yourself busy and occupied and do not try to remain friends with him. Have you already accepted the invitation to the wedding? 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Sorry that you had to go through so much. Give it more time and you will be doing even better.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

marine15 :  It seems you have no compelling reason to stay in touch but try to be on good terms? Unless there are kids involved, staying in touch with exes is a bad idea. You should end whatever contact you have.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

lifeisbeeutiful :  It’s an unfortunate position to be in but it sounds like they divorced a while ago. I don’t think she should avoid a friend’s wedding because her ex is going to be there.

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