Did knowing he was going to propose ruin it for you?

posted 4 days ago in Proposals
Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Hellll no it didn’t ruin it! I was super pumped it had finally happened. I knew the weekend it was happening, we were out of town, not exact time or if it was Saturday or Sunday, ended up being Saturday night at a time I didn’t didn’t expect so it was still a surprise! 

Post # 17
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Newbee

We designed the ring together and I knew when he went and picked it up lol. I didnt know when or where he was going to do it so there was still a bit of suprise there. Even though I knew it was coming and he just proposed while we were at home  it was still so amazing! I was just so happy and it was such a relief to finally be engaged and not wondering when he was going to pop the question lol

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I’m not really sure why it’s supposed to be a surprise to be special. Somebody is asking you to be their life partner and giving you a pretty present that you probably have been looking forward to for a while. Surprise about when or how seem a bit immaterial to me. 

(but I’m still waiting for SO to surprise me cause it matters to him)

Post # 19
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Sugar bee

No, it was extremely cute watching him grow more and more nervous, pretending I had NO IDEA, looking for ways to pretend not to see him psyching himself up, then watching everything unfold from a distance, like I was a spectator rather than a participant. 

You’re going to be flooded with adrenaline whether it’s a surprise or not, because it’s such a significant moment (if YOU assign significance to it.)

Seeing how nervous and choked up Darling Husband got was the biggest surprise for me, and it’s the main thing I remember. And the effort he put into it. Knowing it was coming didn’t detract at all. 

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I knew he had the ring (helped pick it out) and we’d been together for 7 years, I knew he would propose that summer. Knowing all that did not ruin the proposal for me. The magic of a proposal has nothing to do with being surprised, it’s about the person you love making a gesture and asking you to spend forever with them – that’s an incredibly special moment whether it’s a surprise or not.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

I knew it was coming and similar to what other bee’s have said I was pretty anxiously waiting but it was so worth it! Right before he got down on his knee I kind of sensed it but it didn’t ruin it, it was actually nice to know what was happening and really pay attention to all the details. His shakey hands, his big smile with tears in his eyes, and how he awkwardly got down on one knee. I am not sure I would remember all this if I was completely surprised. 

Try to forget it and let it be what it will be so you can enjoy it and not be overly anxious before your trip! 

Post # 22
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Blushing bee

natasha0b :  Most proposals arent a surprise these days. Usually the couple agreed they both feel their relationship is marriage material and a few months later he proposes. My boyfriend and I decided back in July we were heading toward marriage. In October he bought a ring and itll be within a few months. I have no idea what hes planning so it’s still going to be a total surprise.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee

Nope, I didn’t feel overwhelmed. But I didn’t want to, that was the whole point for me. I am an anxious person who hates surprises and I wanted to have some control over the moment. The anticipation and not knowing when and where it would happen was making me ill. For us personally the proposal wasn’t a big deal as we’ve been together nearly 8 years, lived together for a fair while and he already knew the answer to the question. I think if I had wanted a big grand surprising proposal then obviously I would have found what happened anticlimactic. But then again if I wanted a surprising proposal I wouldn’t have spent 2 months designing my own ring ๐Ÿ˜‚

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I know hat it’s going to happen too and am waiting, much like you. We also picked out the ring together. I have a feeling I know when it will be because my best friend is randomly coming to visit the weekend before Christmas. 

However, I was trying to counter-propose and I accidentially ruined the surprise when he found the ring in my pocket *face palm.*

So I guess the surprise was blown for both of us LOL. 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

It didn’t make a difference for me. I knew the week it was going to happen, but not the exact day or the exact way. I was STILL completely shocked, and it was still the most amazing day of my life (so far)! I wouldn’t worry about it being ruined, it’ll still be just as amazing.

Post # 26
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Worker bee

I love reading these stories about how intuitive we ladies are! ๐Ÿ™‚ Always one step ahead ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I knew it was coming but not that weekend.  He told me in the car it wasn’t happening as everyone was expecting it. I got such a surprise that it took me a while to say yes. It was more are you serious!!!

He proposed late at night.  I didn’t want to call or tell anyone until we were home from our mini break the next day.  It was our secret for 18 hours. I drove home so excited  – Took 5 hours. As I was driving,  I got a message from my sister. Did you get engaged last night? I feel like you did? Another sister, have you got news for me ๐Ÿ˜‚.

Kept ignoring them, until we got home and both called our parents. We couldn’t call our parents in the morning as news would travel fast and we wanted to be the ones to share the news personally with everyone.

Ps we didn’t even put it on social media for a good few weeks.

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2018

natasha0b :  This is my second marriage and second proposal.  The first proposal was COMPLETELY unexpected.  I felt kind of ridiculous and when he asked I didn’t quite hear him and said “I’m sorry, what?” And then I had to tell everyone that’s how I responded to my proposal.

This time around we planned everything.  We both bought rings, planned out where we were going to go, each gave a speech to the other and I even got to design and try on my ring before hand.  

100% this time around was MUCH better.  I got to be excited all day, which made the entire day special, and the high lasted for the rest of the day too because we had planned a family get together afterwards and we planned our announcement.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

nope i got what i wanted and he new  i knew all along

Post # 30
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Newbee

I would have preferred to know nothing at all about it.

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