Did marriage magically change things?

posted 3 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

For us, it didn’t change after marriage.  I think maybe some of those couples that describe a change after marriage is because they didn’t live together.  I think living together after marriage when you didn’t comes with a steeper learning curve.  However, seems like you’re both already married in the sense that you live together and have practically combined your finances.  A marriage is what you make it out to be.  If you and your Fiance are content with status quo, then I don’t see why things would change.  Now if you were having a kid, then I would say yes, expect some major life changes, but if just getting married and you guys have already established your hobbies/schedule, then I don’t expect much to change.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We lived together for a year before getting married, and not a single thing changed after marriage.  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Hi Bee!

We were engaged for almost 4 years prior to our marriage this march and we’ve been living together for 3 years now. And I have to say that actually not much has changed.

Just yesterday someone asked me about how married life is and I answered that after getting used to our rings (especially him wearing a ring) there’s actually not that much that changed lol. I didn’t change my last name, so this would probably be something I would have to adjust more. And we’re thinking about getting a bank account together.

When we decided on a date, though, and began the wedding planning I had some anxiety and issues I had to address with him and with myself.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

It depends on what marriage means to you/how much. Some people just *feel* different after marriage.  In the past people would say that life changes after marriage but that was based on the assumption that people didn’t live together prior. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

We lived together for 3 years prior to getting married, and nothing changed for us after tying the knot. Darling Husband doesn’t agree with me on this, but I feel like we bickered a little more after getting married, but I attribute that to stressful work situations/moving out of state and away from family and friends. Now that we’ve moved back, we DO see our friends less than we used to, but that’s what happens when people start having kids! 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2018

Honestly, I didn’t think anything would change since we had been living together for 2 years before getting married. In terms of lifestyle, zero  change.  But.. really great things about my SO shine brighter now and I think to myself “wow, I have this forever” – on the flip side, when something is irritating or worse, upsetting.. I also think “wow this is forever”… Double edged sword! There is a level of seriousness I approach the relationship with that I didn’t before.. for example, we’re moving to another country together .. this goes hand in hand with the higher level of committment we decided to get into. I’ve also been more conscious about his health for some reason… 😅

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Well I can’t speak for after marriage….but like, we own a house together, all our finances are joint, we have a puppy, we already do everything together. We’ve gone through financial difficulty, and financial success. We’ve moved interstate. We’ve travelled.

Aside from the extra jewellery, I can’t see life changing at all come August. like…what else is there? 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - England

Nothing changed for us routine wise, But I have to say it’s a good feeling to know I am lucky enough to be married to my husband! I don’t know if that will wear off eventually 😂. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Not really. He can be a real shit sometime. And so can I. But I’d rather annoy/be annoyed by him for the rest of our lives than anyone else. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

My name changed and I was able to refer to him as my husband but that’s it!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

mrspuppylove :  yeah mine calls me Wifey now. <3

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Zero changed.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

mamabat :  ahahaha 100% that’s my relationship too. You shit me off, but I would rather be shat off by you than anyone else.

ahhh. modern love.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

In all of my previous relationships I didnt want to live together before marriage, because I wanted the married to feel like the start of a new phase in our lives. But that completely changed when I met my now husband. From the start, I wanted to be with him all of the time, and home became wherever he was. We moved in together after seeing each other for a month. And I knew he was the person I was meant to spend my life with, because I didnt need marriage to make our relationship feel magical and special. I love being married to him, and our married life has simply been a continuation of the wonderful relationship we’ve had from the start. 

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