(Closed) Did marriage make your relationship better or worse?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1189 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Ours stayed the same, but we also lived together for quite some time prior to marriage.  I would think those issues arise more if you haven’t lived together, since you’d have an adjustment period.

Post # 4
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

…nothing changed. We were living together, sharing finances, etc years before marriage…so nothing got worse or better.

Post # 5
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ours stayed exactly the same, we just have rings on now.  Like stuckinwonderland, my husband and I lived together, and even purchased a house together, before we were married.  We also discussed things before we got engaged (buy vs rent, where to settle, kids/no kids, finances, etc), so everything was pretty transparent between us.

Post # 6
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Better.  We’re more committed and approach things with the mindset that we’re in it for the long haul and have to figure it out.  Sometimes that does make arguments more intense because there’s no “out” in the back of your mind, but it’s much more satisfying when we do work it out. 

We were together for 6 years before we got married so at first it didn’t seem like things changed much, but now after a year I can say that they have. 

Post # 7
1543 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

a little better but pretty much the same. I’ve lived with him for 3 years before the wedding so we’ve already done the adjusting. Although the wedding costs and our financial situation that we were pretty much ignoring because of all the stress and cost of wedding planning finally all got thrown on us and reality set in so we fought alot for a few weeks after the honeymoon but we are over that now. Now we are on the same page financially and working together toward the same goals. All we really needed was a plan. We’re commited now so theres like a bigger motivation toward maintaining our relationship.


Post # 9
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Around the same…but we lived together beforehand and shared finances.  However, when we were planning a big wedding we fought a lot more (a lot of parents vs us and me being stuck in the middle.  Things pretty much went back to normal after we decided to elope.

Post # 10
1460 posts
Bumble bee

OP you should add a poll 🙂

Post # 11
1581 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

it made ours better 

Post # 12
2178 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Not much has changed, but out of the things that have, it’s better.  I think we both feel very secure and content knowing we are responsible for each other legally and in love.  I had several friends tell us that the first year of marriage was SO HARD for them… Darling Husband and I have remarked several times how ours has been easy and that we’re glad we took our time to get here!

Post # 13
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

In my opinion, marriage should not change anything.  I think too many people have this perception that marriage is something that is supposed to drastically change or heighten your relationship, but if that is what you think it means to be married, then you should not be getting married. 

Post # 14
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

better so far no problems

Post # 15
8613 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ours is about the same, maybe a little better?

Post # 16
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

In some ways things were teh same, but in many ways things are better. Our relationship seems a little bit stronger. We’ve only been married a little under 3 months, so maybe it will change. 

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