(Closed) Did my bridal store lie to me?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I don’t understand what the problem is? I’m not trying to be snarky, I just sincerely don’t understand the issue of whether it was or was not part of the trunk show or whether it is or is not now? 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I don’t see a problem here, you love your dress and you bought it. Thats all that matters.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

They probably “nudged” you towards a sale. Maybe lying isn’t the word for it? All’s fair in love and sales is what this sounds like. When anyone is trying to sell me something (especially in this emotion-fueled industry of weddings) I usually try to take what they say with a grain of salt.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t see why if they lied to you or not, it really matters.

You have your dress (Or will).

You love your dress.

Where is the problem? People lie every day, and you probably get lied to a lot more than you’d like if you really knew.

I agree with the first poster… I don’t see the issue you’re having. I understand you don’t like being lied to… but, is it enough to actually think there is a problem here?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

they could have purchased the dress to have in the store as sample after the trunk show ended.. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It sounds like they perhaps did lie & I would be upset too. It’s not good practice and may have made OP rush her decision.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Mrsluckywife:  A rushed decision isn’t really the bridal shop’s responsibility. Just like someone who orders the wrong meal at a restaurant, it isn’t the waiter’s problem. While a bridal shop has the potential to influence a decision, it’s the bride’s responsibility to decide whether or not those influences are substantial. For example, if a bridal shop says, “This design will be discontinued in X months.” one could say, “Well she was pressured into getting it.” Whereas the other side of the coin is, “Is it a design she could live without, or why does a discontinued design matter to the bride?”

It boils down to the bride. It’s their responsibility to take a breath and think rationally (Which I’ve found is rather uncommon in most brides), and really weigh the pros and cons of any vendor. If they make you feel rushed, don’t give them your business. If you think they are deceiving you (In any case, whether it be timeline, price, value, material, designer, whatever.) arm yourself with proof and/or move on if it would settle your soul.

Ultimately, being lied to, about anything is shitty. But life is short, yet it’s the longest thing you’ll ever do: Pick your battles. Is being upset about an influential bridal store really worth investing yourself emotionally in? What does being upset about it solve? Nothing? Then why worry about it? I don’t think this bridal shop, with the limited details we have been given here, has done anything wrong. From being on this site alone, unless I could read labels and designers, I can’t tell most dresses apart. They all look the same to me, so unless this dress was particularly notable (I’m not going to humor the thought that “a bride knows her dress”) there is at least some chance that it was a different dress that just looked similar.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’d imagine that after the trunk show, they ordered the dress to have in store and it came in soon after the trunk show ended. So when the twin spoke to you, the trunk show dress was gone, but the sample hadn’t arrived yet and now it has.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Ok, I see where you are coming from OP. Being lied to sucks. But a sales person’s job is to make a sale, not make a friend- it is the responsibility of the consumer to protect their own interests. If you love the dress, stop worrying about whether or not it was part of a trunk show, it doesn’t change the outcome. Also, trunk shows are just a chance to pre-view the items, they later DO become widely available, so it is likely that what they said to you was true.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I tried a dress at a trunk suow that was a spring collection. Couldnt find it online and never saw in another store. 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BeignetBride:  I totally agree with EXACTLY what you said.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I see where your comming from, but I’ve never experienced that. Id hate being lied to aswel!

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