- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
So I’m writing anonymously…looking for help.
Here is the story…recently a friend called me and asked me to go out to dinner saying she needed to talk to me. I had no idea what about, but she caught me completely by surprise with what she told me. She said a friend of hers who fi and I have also met before had placed an add on craigslist for an FWB and my Fi had responded to it! My first instinct is that I don’t believe it, but I am still concerned. My fi has never given me a reason not to trust him and we have been together for 3+ years.
First thing I did when I got home was confront him, he looked me in the eye and told me that he had no idea what I was talking about, that he loved me, and that he would never do anything to jeopardize our relationship.
I asked him to look at his email, he had no problem with giving me his password, but he had the settings setup to delete all mail post 7 days…
I contacted the girl that he supposedly contacted. She said that he replied to her post and asked “where she was located?” with a pic she said she recognized him so she deleted the email without responding. Then he emailed her again saying “I’m blank from blank”. She responded saying “your email looks familiar I think I know your GF” He responded “Ok we should hookup soon”
Reasons I’m doubting: all of this is according to this girl who I met maybe twice and isn’t the type I would really trust.
She said she deleted all the emails. So theres no proof. Why would she delete them and still make sure I was told about it because “I deserved to know”
She said the pic was of him in a bathroom wearing yellow shorts. All of our bathrooms only have medicine cabinet mirrors that you can’t take a pic in and he doesn’t own yellow shorts. Also she has only met him once about 2 yrs ago and she recognized him?
Honestly what guy would respond with “we should hookup” after the girl says I know your GF? He also never asked for her pic, and she is not at all attractive or his type, where he would want to hookup with her…
Lastly I know previous to this ordeal he has had his email hacked atleast twice…which would be a possible explanation for this besides her making it up for some wierd reason.
Reasons I am doubting: She did know his email, but it was also listed on his facebook.
The scariest thing is that I know previous to our relationship he had met girls on craigslist to hookup.
We have excellant communication in our relationship, and an active sex life. So I don’t know any reason why he would be looking to cheat. This whole time I just feel like I’m talking myself out of believing it, but I just couldn’t imgaine him doing anything like this. I told my mother about it and she honestly laughed saying “he would never” I’m just afraid that 2 months into the marriage I’m going to find out he has some secret second life and he isn’t the person I know and love.
Help! What do you guys think?