Did NOT think I would have to deal with wedding party drama….I was wrong,

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

My husband had two best men, one didn’t care and one was not stoked to “share” the honor. 

Has he already told B he’s going to be co-best man? 100% either way, you need to stay out of it and let your Fiance deal with it.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I have not gone through this, but if I was in this situation I wouldn’t butt in. I’d let my Fiance deal with it. You’ve already talked to your Fiance and let him know how you feel. So I’d just support whatever he decided

EDIT: My fiance is having two Best Men. Neither of them mind. One is his brother, the other is his BFF

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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strawberrytouchdown :  it’s not worth the drama, let him deal with it. What’s the worst to happen? 2 best men. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

We didn’t go through this, but Fiance couldn’t choose a Best Man, so he didn’t have one, he had ‘The Best Men’ haha so none of them were a ‘groomsman’.

None of them would be the type of guys who would get pissy over titles so it was really a non-issue. Just Fiance wanted them all to be the same 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

You don’t have to deal with anything, its not your drama. Stay out of it and support his decision.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would stay out of it. It doesn’t matter how he made his decisons. They are his to make.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

My fiance has two best men. They are both fulfilling different duties on the day. One is in charge of the ring & the other is doing the speech. No issues. 

 

Don’t get me started on wedding drama. I am up to my ears in it but it is from my family & not his… 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Stay out of it.  It goes without saying that it’s not your place to say anything to the other person.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

It’s between the three of them, stay out of it.  You’re all good friends now and I assume you want to keep things that way.smile

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

Not your circus, not your monkeys.

His friendships, his decision.

I mean, really there is very little that is required in the first place.  This is an issue of semantics between best man and groomsman which are essentially the same thing.  And basically his big problem is he has two friends.  Lots of people would kill to have that problem.  So butt out and let him conduct his friendships as he sees fit.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

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strawberrytouchdown :  I get that it’s hard to see your future husband get bullied like that but I agree with PPs. You need to let your Fiance handle this problem alone. If he’s okay with 2 GMs then you should be too. 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I agree stay out of it, the simpler it is kept the better.  As well as avoiding complications, given that he is uncomfortable with confrontation and came to the solution after the interaction with B, it may very well be that it is the most comfortable solution for him now that B has made his feelings known.  I don’t think the titles matter too much, the duties like carrying the ring and making the speech could be split or A and B could work on it together.

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