(Closed) Did She Really!?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would smile sweetly and say “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” and then maybe add in a “Bless your heart” which everyone in the South knows is just a really nice way to say ‘F$&K YOU!’ 🙂

Post # 4
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3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Meh, it sounds like she was talking about a dress for her while looking at your dress. At least she said it looked good on you. I wouldn’t get too worked about it. And the situation with her wedding (whether it happens or not) doesn’t play into my opinion.

Post # 5
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6359 posts
Bee Keeper

I would move on as if it didn’t happen.

I would also recomsider if there were enough things I liked about this ‘friend’ to offset the things, such as this, that I don’t like about her. If yes, I would accept this as an annoying quirk. If no, I wouldn’t have free time for her anymore.

Post # 6
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1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@DaneLady:  LOL +++1

Post # 8
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@DaneLady:  I am moving to Louisiana at some point and I can’t wait to say that! If I use it in NYC, they won’t get it

Post # 10
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ieatunicorns:  This.

 

It doesn’t sound like she was so much trying to criticize your choice of dress. She was just trying to get an idea from which to base how she starts looking.

Post # 13
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8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Kee_Jay22:  She could either be innocently brainstorming for ideas for her own dress, or she could be feeling catty and jealous.  It kinda just depends on how she said it.  The important thing is how you feel in your dress.

 

Post # 14
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862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Omg, I used to have a “friend” like this!  Friends like this are not real friends at all!  She’s just jealous of you.  My wedding-obsessed friend also got really jealous when I got engaged and she wouldn’t help me with any of the planning (even though she was going to be my maid of honor) but she’d always have something negative to say about whatever ideas I came up with on my own.  I was giving my attendants silk blue roses in their bouquets and I only went with silk because you can’t have real blue roses and she said how cheap that was and how she would NEVER have artificial flowers in HER wedding.  I bought some black silk roses to put next to the pictures of my deceased dog (who I had for seventeen years), grandparents, and godfather at the wedding reception and she said how morbid it was, that black roses were always morbid no matter what, and again that she would NEVER have anything like that in HER wedding either.  After I already got bubble wands for the guests to blow bubbles on me and my husband during our first dance, she said I should have got a bubble machine instead.  When she saw the bracelets I bought as “thank you” gifts for my female attendants, she said they were too cheap and that I could give those to the bridesmaids but I “had better get something better” for HER.  My father was going to do the music for my wedding because he’s a professional DJ and she unleashed an entire chirade about how cheap I was supposedly being by not hiring another DJ instead and about how she would NEVER ask a member of HER family to do the music at HER wedding.  Oh, and if she saw any Hello Kitty merchandise (which I happen to love and I had an expensive Hello Kitty cake topper which my husband bought me as a wedding present) at the wedding, she would “snatch it right off the tables because it’s too childish.”  Meanwhile, it’s fine for her to love Hannah Montana, Winnie the Pooh, Care Bears, and whatever else she’s into.  Go figure!

Like your friend, my ex-friend had also been planning her own wedding for years long before either of us were ever engaged and she already had a binder full of decorating ideas, vendor contact information, etc.  When I was contacting her to see when she would be available to go shopping for my wedding dress, she wouldn’t respond, but now I’m glad she never came with me because no doubt she would have said a lot of the same things about my dress that your nasty friend said about yours!  I no longer speak to my ex-friend, and if this is any indication of how your friend acts most of the time, I’d recommend you doing the same as I did and cut her out of your life!  If it was only a one-time thing, though, and she isn’t normally this much of a bitch, I’d definitely talk to her about it and tell her that you really didn’t like her comments about your dress.

Post # 16
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862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Kee_Jay22: Your ring is none of her business.  The fact that she keeps bringing it up (especially in a conversation that really had nothing to even do with the ring) only goes to show that she is crazy jealous!  Is she USUALLY like this?!

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