Post # 47
Ugh, that sounds horrible. Yeah, I think you’ll be nervous if you’re relying on your dad for that important role. Give him something that isn’t a big deal if for some reason he starts drinking or worst case doesnt show up at all. Unfortunately, big events are often also big triggers for addicts.
Plus, you’ll have enough to worry about on your day!
*hugs* At the end of the day you are walking down to your amazing partner, and when you see their face at the end of the aisle it is the most beautiful moment. 🙂
Post # 49
you don’t have a choice for just mother.
my mom walked me down.
Post # 50
My father passed when I was 16. I wanted my Mom to walk me down the aisle but she said no lol. She said it’s too hard and didn’t want to cry the whole time. So now my middle brother is walking me 🙂 I’m fine with it, my Mom wasn’t rude. I know her and know she only said no because she’d be a wreck.
Post # 51
I’ll be walking alone. My father passed several years ago, along with both grandfathers, and my brothers and I aren’t close. My mother once expressed an interest in walking me, and seemed a little miffed when I politely declined…but for me, the choice was always my father or no one. I’m still a daddy’s girl.
In your situation, however, I’d probably ask my grandfather. Since he was the person to fill that role in your life, I would ask him to do the honors. In My Humble Opinion, it’s a symbol of your relationship with that person–not who would be most offended if you didn’t ask him.
Post # 52
@FutureMrsMonit: My mother and Stepfather are walking me down the asile. He has been in my life since I was 11, and my father passed away 5 years ago.
Post # 53
My mum – like you my Dad was an alcoholic and pretty much hasn’t been around for most of my life, although he loves me and he’s cleaned himself up now, my mum has been the real parent and support. Maybe you should consider your mother?
Post # 54
@FutureMrsMonit: My father walked out of my life when I was six months old leaving my grandfather to step in and take over. He raised me until I left for college at 18 years old. So in other words my grandfather was my fater.
Sadly my grandfather was not physically capable of walking me down the aisle at our wedding in 2012. I was heartbroken. However, my uncle who is very close to me is like a second father walked me down the aisle which was just as appropriate. We put my grandfather at the end so that he could be “part” of the giving away. He passed away this past March and I’m so glad that we were able to have him there with us.
Post # 55
Originally my mom and dad were going to do it but my dad has chosen not to pay for my destination wedding (for his trip) so now it’ll just be my mom which is fine she was more in my life then he ever was.
Post # 57
Similar story… My Biological Dad has never really been part of my life… the person I call DAD is my step-father that has raised me since I was 2 years old. My step dad and mother got divorced about 5 years ago as he had an affair. About 4 months ago, they begin talking again and my dad recently moved back in. However, when I got engaged, the only person I could see myself walking me down the aisle was my grandfather, who like you has always been there for me and my mom. Now that my dad is back, I still don’t see myself getting walked by anyone who is not my grandpa. My mom and dad are both giving me away though. But I am more than happy with my decision on who is the man that deserves to walk me down the aisle. Good luck in making your decision.