(Closed) Did someone's pregnancy affect your wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did someone's pregnancy affect your wedding?
    Yes - caused quite a bit of trouble : (12 votes)
    11 %
    Yes - didn't cause too much trouble : (33 votes)
    30 %
    No : (66 votes)
    59 %
  • Post # 32
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Darling Husband sister had baby a week before so everyone who was traveling left the reception early to see the baby and skiped our breakfast to be with her and of course she didn’t come. 

    it really sucked.

    but I’m a spoiled brat. 

    Post # 33
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @alishaloo:  Your SIL did nothing wrong, but that was incredibly rude of your guests. They could have seen the baby the next day.

    Post # 34
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    984 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No. One of my 2 bridesmaids was 7 months pregnant at my wedding but it didn’t affect anything.

    Post # 35
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @paula1248:   Oh yes of course she couldn’t control it. It bummed me out that she have no thought to us at all tho. She blew us of from the start because we picked our date close to her due date. But she didn’t announce the pregnancy till  a few days after we announced the date :/

     

    but but oh well the real big bummer like you said was the guests and having to share but like I said I’m a brat.

     

    the worst part was I had never met my mother in law and so I was hoping to spend time

    with her and so was Dh since he hadnt seen her in over 5 years but we saw her for 30

    secondos right after the ceremony and then she left to

    see the baby and never came back 🙁 

     

    not really the baby’s or sisters fault tho ! 

    Post # 36
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    251 posts
    Helper bee

    No, no one was pregnant that had any affect on the wedding, and if they were, it wouldn’t have mattered to me – unless they were to announce their pregnancy at our wedding without asking us. Making personal announcements at someone else’s hosted event is just rude unless you’ve the blessing of those hosting/those being honored.

    Post # 37
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    1228 posts
    Bumble bee

    No, and it’s very unlikely that someome will be pregnant when I get married considering the ages of my bridesmaids and how they’re my younger sisters.. Heheheh

    Post # 39
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    1508 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My Maid/Matron of Honor was preggo during our planning but baby was due 7 month before our Destination Wedding. Our/her only concern was her being okay with being away from him for a week – the dad is in a wheelchair and unable to care for a 7month old on his own. The grandparents stepped up and helped out and as much as she missed him, she had a good time.

    Post # 40
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    719 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @mscuppycake:  Agree. Everyone’s “stuff” is important to them. Whether or not it is important to *you* is a non-issue.

    The only pregnancy “issue” with our wedding was my SIL was pregnant and kind of forgot about us. The year sucked for us in that way, because we were not able to share anything with her and my brother, because literally the *only* thing they talked about from the day they announced was her pregnancy/the baby. We understood that they were super excited – we were super excited for them! – but hey, we were also excited for ourselves, and it was hard not having their support.

    We ended up removing my brother as MC because honestly he hadn’t shown any interest at all and I was upset about it. It took some time and courage, but I finally decided that for once I wasn’t going to be the bigger person lol this was ONE DAY that actually wasn’t going to be about him/them.

    Since then, my brother has apologised for being so self-centred and has made some small steps to change. I’m not letting him off the hook too easily, since this wasn’t entirely out of character anyway. Since the baby has been born (6 weeks before our wedding) he’s done better. SIL still doesn’t care in the slightest about us, how we’re doing, what we’re up to, and frankly, I’ve stopped reaching out to her. Maybe that sounds petty, but I get tired of talking to myself.

    So to sum up, I suppose the pregnancy effected the actual wedding very little, except that I did not have my brother’s support (which sucked), and effected our lives a great deal, since my SIL and I barely speak these days, and I honestly am having a hard time dealing with the person she’s become. It’s very unfortunate.

    Post # 40
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Matron of honor and her husband are trying to get pregnant and I want them to get pregnant so bad butttt I hope they get pregnant in April or May lol that way she can actually be at my November wedding

    Post # 41
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    mscuppycake:  We didn’t have any with our wedding but some friends of ours pushed back their wedding date to fall 2015.  Since we have to travel to another country to attend the wedding it forced us to have the baby conversation to figure out if we want to wait to TTC or go ahead with our current plan to start TTC on our one year anniversary.

    We decided to push off TTC to spring 2015 so if we do get pregnant right away I’ll be in my second trimester during the trip.  If I have complications I plan to stay home while my husband attends the wedding on his own (he’s a groomsman.)  Had we kept our original date we might have been due before or on the wedding date meaning we would have missed the wedding.  We decided not to wait until after their wedding because we’re ready to be parents and each year puts me closer to our cut-off date when I turn 35 (I’m currently 30.)

    Post # 42
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    2942 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    A girl in my wedding is due 3 weeks before my wedding.  At this point, I have told her if she feels like coming, she can come and do as little or as much as she wants.  I’ll be sad if she can’t come, but really, that little life is much more important than one day of mine! 

    Post # 43
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    4037 posts
    Honey bee

     

    DanielsQueenBee:  If you do let her bring the twins to the wedding, request that she nurses inside your mother’s home. Nursing infants on demand could mean 15 minute feeds, every hour, and with twins, it could mean she’d be pretty much be nursing half of your reception. If I read you right, she likes attention to be on her …

    Post # 44
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No one was PG at my wedding, so I didn’t have any issues.

    I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man this fall in two weddings and there is potential for at least 2 of us BM’s to be pregnant in the first wedding I’m in. I’ve chatted with both brides about the potential for me to be PG (who knows, we haven’t started trying but if we do there is a possibilty) and both were over the moon excited.

    Post # 45
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    2814 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I myself got pregnant 8 months before our wedding. We ended up post-poning the wedding for a year, which I am glad I did. I had so many complications with my pregnancy, that the wedding would have likely not have happened if I went through with it while pregnant.

    At my wedding, I didn’t have any issues with pregnancy. My Maid/Matron of Honor just had her Dear Daughter a few months before the wedding and I left the option open to her to step down (which she didnt 🙂 ) and I also made sure I didn’t put too much on her plate in terms of planning too.

     

    I’m now pregnant with my second, and it will sadly “interfere” with our really good friends’ wedding. I’m due late Sept, and they’re getting married early October, outside. There’s no way I can bring my baby to that, even if they decide to allow kids 🙁 My Darling Husband will go, but I will have to stay home with my LO…I’m totally bummed about that!

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