Post # 1
As of this morning, we are not getting married. We argue a lot and have had our fair share of wedding breaking moments but this morning was the final “breaking point.” It’s sad because it went down a little differently than I had expected. We had argued back and forth about something that I don’t even remember and then I just said, “Let’s just not get married.” He said “O.k., then give me the ring back” kind of joking like, and I did. And that was the end of it. Unfortunately, we were coming back home from the lake and we sat in complete silence for another two and a half hours.
I knew that we would probably get to that point but I figured it would be in a screaming fight about something just a little more revelant. I am sure that we will resolve the issue, get back together and continue planning our wedding (we have been together eight and a half years) but for now, we have gone back to just dating. I must say that I am half-way relieved.
Post # 3
Sorry that things are turning out like this, but you make it sound as if it was somewhat expected and you both know that you’ve got some things to work on. I hope that you find the answers you need and that you can get to a good place, whether that’s together or apart. Sending good thoughts your way.
Post # 4
((hugs)) It sounds like you two could do with couples counselling. I don’t think it’s healthy to be back and forth all the time sweetie. If/when you get married, are you just going to get seperated, divorced, and then remarried over and over? What happens if you have kids? The emotional rollercoaster must be exhausting!
Post # 5
Totally agree, OP I am sorry you have to go through this, please both go see a professional, hugs!
Post # 6
I’m so sorry this happened! Sounds like it may be for the better, at least for now. If you were expecting this to come, then maybe it’s not the best time to be planning a wedding. What’s really important is that you two find a way to be happy together. Once you’re stable, then reconsider getting married. You’ll both be looking forward to the wedding and spending the rest of your lives together, if that’s what’s in the cards.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry this happened, but you don’t sound overly surprised about it. Will your Boyfriend or Best Friend agree to talking to someone? I think it would really help. Hang in there, I am sure that it will all work out as it should.
Post # 8
So sorry 🙁 I agree with bakerella. Couples counseling might be a good idea for you guys. Good luck.
Post # 9
I am sorry! Sounds like you guys are going to take this time to improve your relationship, which is great!
Post # 10
If you are relieved and you knew it would happen, why would you want to get back together and get married still? Sometimes relationships do run their course and it’s not a dramatic end, it just one day is over. Also, expecting a screaming fight isn’t good either–you shouldn’t have to scream at or be screamed at in a relationship. I think maybe you should think about moving on and forward. Sorry if that’s not what you want to hear and I do wish you the very best, because you deserve it!