(Closed) Did the hormonal effects of having children change your sex drive?

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Post # 16
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Blushing bee

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princesslettuce14:  Lol, I kinda figured that’s not ALL you were basing it on :3.  I feel you!  I am SOOOO analytical!!!!  My parents are the same.  They have 3 kids and have been married 30 years and they have sex everyday lol.  And yes, there are lots of kids out there that need love!  Adoption would be a fantastic choice :D!

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Post # 17
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Sugar bee
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BurlapnLace:  BAHAHA! My thoughts exactly! Jeesh! (Except I do have a baby 🙂

OP, I think everyone is different, but speaking for myself, I’m going to say yes, it does change the drive. My son is 5 months old now & I’m still barely interested in sex. I believe other factors besides just hormones are involved though. I breastfed (combined breast/bottle both) up until about 2 weeks ago, now he’s exclusively bottle-fed, but like PP said, breastfeeding left me feeling so “touched out”, I could NOT be intimate. It’s hard to consider your breasts as sexual objects when breastfeeding. Also, I had/still have some PP depression going on. My Dr is aware & I’m dealing with it, but having a baby is draining in so many ways, that sex is the least of my worries right now. I’d take a nap over sex any day, lol. (You never realize how true that is until baby comes along!)

Another factor in my case is just being genuinely terrified of having anymore kids. I’m still adjusting to mommyhood & all it’s challenges. My sweet baby boy is enough for me! Plus I had a c-section which was totally unexpected & terrifying, (& painful, sweet MIKE was it ever) so the idea of having to do that again is a major mood-killer.

I don’t believe it’s the same for everyone though, because otherwise no one would ever have more than one child, lol. I have read about it online though & it does seem to be pretty common, especially for several months after birth. It’s the biggest change a woman’s body has to go through, so it only makes sense that some things might never be quite the same… My poor stomach for instance, lol.

 

 

 

Post # 18
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Busy bee

Can’t speak for post baby, but I am currently in the thick of pregancy and nothing about my sex drive has changed. SO has been super busy with work though and has been out of town a lot so when he is here I want it haha. The farther along I get and the more stories I hear about  what the first few months with a newborn are actually like, I am pretty glad that I won’t be able to have sex for awhile

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
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princesslettuce14:  I don’t think it’s the hormones that do anything to your sex drive– specifically after having children.  At least not in my case.  If there’s ever a reason that I wouldn’t want to have sex, it’s because I’m exhausted.

I had my son when I was 27, and my sex drive increased significantly in my 30’s (I’m 33).  

But it wasn’t lower after having my son than it was before I had him– there just wasn’t as much time (and I also didn’t really enjoy being intimate with my son’s father, to be honest, sad, but true).

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Sugar bee
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princesslettuce14:  OMG. If what your mom says is true, she was one tough cookie! After my c-section it hurt me to sit/stand/walk/shower/etc. It even hurt me to breastfeed my baby because he had to lay on a boppy pillow which was across my belly. I cannot IMAGINE sex a WEEK after a c-section. That’s crazy!!!!

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Post # 22
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Bumble bee
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princesslettuce14:  Not the homrmones so much, but the exhaustion and stress of a new baby definitely do affect your sex drive.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

Age, stress, illness, and other unforseeable factors can and will affect your sex drive eventually. I don’t think fear of the unknown is a great reason to not do something you want to do. I’ve lost my sex drive entirely in my third trimester and I know I won’t want sex for 6 to 8 weeks after delivery, but that’s OK… I’m fine with it. There have been times in my life where thanks to circumstances beyond my control (illness, medication, depression, bad times, etc), I haven’t wanted to have sex for periods of time. And then, things got better, and I did. The only thing that you can count on is change… and your sex drive will likely change, whether or not you have a kid. 🙂

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I plan on breastfeeding at least 6 months and potentially up to a year…does that mean I won’t have sex drive that whole time?? This troubles me!

Post # 25
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Busy bee

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princesslettuce14:  we have an almost 5 year old and a baby on the way and we have sex several times a week, and we do something intimate almost daily.  About a year before getting pregnant I stated having some health issues, which did slow down my sex drive and with being pregnant there are just some days I’m not feeling great for whatever reason (I’ve had a hard pregnancy and I’m on a few meds that give me shitty side effect) I think that after the first few exhausting months of having a newborn we will get back to our pre-pregnancy, pre- my health issues level, which was about once a day ( keep in mind we already had a 3 year old when this was the norm). I do plan on taking a few weeks off from intercourse after delivery, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do anything at all! I think if your sex life is a priority for you you will keep it a priority after having a baby. there are things that have fallen to the wayside for me in my life after having kids, but for the most part they are things that weren’t that important to me. for example I’ve always loved to travel and I’ve taken my daughter to the virgin island twice and once to jamaica, so like I said if you make the things that are importantt o you a priority they will stay a big part of your life.

 

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