Post # 1
Hi Bee’s –
I’m starting to realize that most of the people attending our wedding are going to be purchasing gifts on their own rather than using our registry. People have been droping random items over at my FMIL house. I am very thankful that people are wanting to gift us with a wedding gift. However, people are just buying what they want to buy us and it tends to be something we already have :/ There really isn’t a way to return it since they aren’t giving us a gift receipt…? We just got our 4th crock pot.
I’m a little disappointed because I was really excited when we got registered and it seems like it was all for not. I understand that it’s their money and really they can get whatever they want to.
What is the trend for you wedding?
Post # 2
I know the feeling. It seems to be that older guests (parents’ friends) want to buy their own things and people our age are happier buying things from the registry. A friend of my mom’s flat out refused to buy something from the registry and instead gave us a gift card to a store we’d never even heard of. Thankfully we were able to find something we liked there, but it was a struggle at first. One of FI’s aunts gave us embroidered towels that will live in our closet until we donate them somewhere. It’s hard because you want to be gracious that someone went out of their way to give you anything, but we registered for stuff for a reason and that’s what we’d prefer.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
Meant2Bee: I would say the majority of our gifts were from our registry. A lot of people gave gift cards to the places we registered.
Post # 4
Have you made people aware of your registry? We had several showers, and all the shower invites said where we registered. We also had a wedding website that had registry info on it….all of our invites had a the web address of our wedding website, so guests could find our registry (we didn’t explicitly say “go to our webstite to see our registry”….we didnt want to seem gift grabby, wanted to be more subtle ya know lol…). The showers helped alot.
I think we registered for about $4,000 worth of stuff. We got everything off of our registry, we even had to keep going back to add more items. All said and done, i think we registered for 101 items and got 98 of them.
Probably about 10% of people bought stuff not off the registry. A lot of older people gave us gifts that weren’t off the registry, just probably because they don’t know what a registry is and how they work lol.
One thing we didn’t expect was how much cash we got. We didn’t even think people would give us cash, it didn’t cross either of our minds. But after the wedding when we opened cards we got almost 5k in cash and checks.
I would just recommend making sure people know about your registry. Have showers that plug the registry, and themed showers like “bed and bath” or “wine and dine” and stuff like that….
good luck! the registry part was so fun for us! we registry stalked probably 5 times a day haha always checking to see what had been bought.
Post # 5
Bexx: We made it super clear where we are registered. It was on my shower invite…only two people purchased off the registry for that. On our wedding invite it had our website which lists where we are registered.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
So far we have gotten about 70% gifts from registry, 20% gifts from elsewhere, and 10% cash or gift cards. But this is before the wedding which is now 8 days away!!
Post # 7
Yup. It happens. Not just for weddings – I feel like I get at least one Christmas gift every year that I’ll never use. Kind of annoying. But not the end of the world. You can always donate or give away duplicate items. All your can really do is just try to appreciate the gift as a sign of celebration and support and not worry so much if the actual item isn’t super useful.
For our wedding, we got cash/gift carsds from 44%, honeymoon registry from 33%, physical gifts from registry from 10% and off registry physical gifts from 13%. Some of the off-registry stuff we kept and use, but there was at least one knife set that I remember that we donated because we got a better knife set off our registry.
Post # 8
Almost all my shower gifts were from the registry, but most of the wedding gifts were cash.
Post # 9
We mostly got things from our registry, but the people who got their own things all gave us things we already had. So we have 5 crock pots, two blenders and 6 sets of mixing bowls. Oh, and 3.5 sets of bakeware.
Post # 10
I got mostly registry/gift cards/cash.
Meant2Bee: Some stores will take products they sell without a receipt/gift receipt – usually for store credit. Pay attention to stores that sell those brands and try returning duplicate items there.
Post # 11
We registered for gifts (most under $50), but I think 75% of our guests gave cash/checks. I think this was due to the fact that many of our guests had to travel and my family is Chinese (cash is the traditional gift). We honestly didn’t expect any gifts, so we were happy with whatever we got. I didn’t have a bridal shower though.
Post # 12
We got 4-5 boxed gifts, one of which was from our registry lol…. the rest was money in cards (typical for italian weddings). There was also a lot of OOT guests so it was just easier to do money I guess. I didnt have a shower though so there want really any word spread via that route. I made a website with registry info but I dont think many people looked at it.
Post # 13
All of our shower gifts were from the registry expect for one; either gifts or a gift card from where we registered. The other gift was a gift card to Crate and Barrel, which is great.
For weddings, our family/culture/friends only gives cash gifts. So nothing from the registry, but we got a whole lotta cash.
Post # 14
We got almost everything on our registry and I’d say 90% of gifts were from the registry. The rest were cash, and like 2 were random things that I returned. I think it depends on your guest demographic though, certain types of people are more likely to give cash, registry gifts, or decide they want to give their own gift.
Post # 15
We got about 95% of the registry bought (which wasn’t hard because we only listed 23 items) and the only non-gift registry items were really nice, like a Danish clock, gift cards, champagne and a dinner out!