(Closed) Did the relationship with your FMIL change when you got engaged?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: So dish, how did FMIL react to the engagement?
    OMG she was ECSTATIC! : (36 votes)
    49 %
    She seemed excited. : (15 votes)
    20 %
    She didn't really react much other than an obligatory congratulations. : (12 votes)
    16 %
    She decided she didn't like me suddenly. : (11 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1080 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I have posted about this before. All of a sudden after we got engaged I was enemy numero uno. It began with her not wanting him to as much spend money on a ring as he wanted and now she just hates everything. I’m taking her son away, he never talks to her anymore, blah blah blah

    Post # 4
    Member
    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Future Mother-In-Law loves me and thinks I’m perfect for her son (apparently Future Father-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law decided this from the first day they met me), but she was less than thrilled when we told them we got engaged.  We got hesitant congratulations.  She’s just really protective of her little boy, meh.  FFIL, meanwhile, was ecstatic.

    Post # 5
    Member
    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i LOVE my Future Mother-In-Law. she is the BEST. simply the best. when we go to visit, she always has presents for me waiting in our room (new bathrobe, some yummy soap, a fancy jelly, whatever). she makes sure they have skim milk (they like 2%) which i like. when they go on trips, she sends me postcards. she ALWAYS wants to hear my boring stories, always tells me how wonderful i am, the list goes on….

    i. love. her.

    Post # 6
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    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    yeah she was excited. I think she knew it would happen since we’ve been together so long, so we had talked about it.

    But definitely excited for us, i think she was somewhat surprised that we were waiting to not only to get engaged but even to have the wedding too. I think she would have rather things happen sooner but owell 🙂 i think our relationship has stayed the same though, not closer nor farther apart relationship wise.

    Post # 7
    Member
    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    She was very excited! Her and Future Father-In-Law have joked on many occasions that if Fiance broke up with me, they’d like to keep me instead of him lol. I know that I am EXTREMELY lucky!

    Post # 8
    Member
    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    She was excited until we revealed our “non-traditional” reception plans (really not that untraditional, but they aren’t impressed)

    Post # 9
    Member
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    she was so excited. my engagement ring is a family ring, originally his great grandmas, but before me she was wearing it and was trying to get him to give it to me two months after we met (he did it 11 months after). when he did propose, she wrote us a cute card about how special it was to give us her ring.

    Post # 10
    Member
    925 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    my Future Mother-In-Law was VERY excited, she went straight to the ” oh my grandchildren are going to be so beautiful” LOL  We’ve become closer during the whole wedding process to, we understand each other a lot better.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1075 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We have dated for 4 yrs…and I’ve yet to meet his family Embarassed

    Post # 12
    Member
    1763 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Once changed the second we told Fiance we were expecting a baby. She is the first grandchild and Future Mother-In-Law didn’t feel she was ready to be a Granma yet (her exact words and no this feeling hasn’t changed in 18 months)

    So our engagement still isn’t really recognized be Future Mother-In-Law. I was introduced as his girlfriend at Christmas and we have been engaged for almost 2 years.

    Post # 13
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    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Darling Husband and I have been together for almost 8 years now.  MIL  and I got along for the first 7 years, she even considered me to be her daughter.  Then a few months after he proposed and she went on this “this is how a wedding should be and your ideas aren’t good enough’ rampage.  Now we don’t even speak. Oh, did I mention that I think  Darling Husband has mommy issues and she has attachment issues… well, I think after we almost called off the wedding, the mommy issues has somewhat disappeared. Her on the otherhand, still a witch.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1109 posts
    Bumble bee

    Hopefully things won’t change from the way they are.  I expect she’ll be a bit excited, unless somehow BF’s sister gets engaged/sets a date/seals the deal before we do.

    I think she’d be more excited about being able to plan a wedding, but like I said to my friend, she’s got her own daughter who has similar taste, she can plan when it’s BF’s sister’s turn.

    She did go from harassing us to get married to telling us not to get married, marriage was crap all in the course of a dinner… so we’ll see.

    Post # 15
    Member
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Mine was very excited. She said it was about da** time!!!

    She does have a point. We have been together for just over 9 years.

    Post # 16
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    1408 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My Future Mother-In-Law was shocked when we told her we were engaged (although neither of our fathers were), but she was, and is, excited about it. FI’s parents like me. Its only his younger brother that’s been a pain in my behind since the announcement. He went from being a pretty okay guy to being an all out, complete jerk. My urge to smack him is getting worse and worse. We used to visit every single weekend, but he’s so unpleasent to me that we’ve not been to visit in almost a month. Ergg…

    however, my Future Mother-In-Law is awesome. She was the only one who would go dress shopping with me (both my mother and sister basically told me to sod off and my friends acted like I was asking them to come get extensive dental surgury done with me.). Future Father-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law have come to all our major meetings- caterers, DJs, etc. and Future Mother-In-Law and I e-mail back and forth about details all the time. Love her! 😀

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