Did they ask your parents/dad while you were waiting? Did/do you know?

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Mine went to talk to my parents a couple months. I knew about it because we live together so it was easy to notice. Not important to me but my parents would have had a cow if he didn’t ask.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

My husband took both my parents out for lunch and told them he was going to ask me to marry him and asked for their blessing. He also brought the ring to show my mom for fun. I had no idea this happened until after we got engaged. I’m glad that he did that, I think it was a nice bonding moment for the three of them and I think my parents were happy to be involved in some way. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

My now fiance did not have to ask my parents for permission, but since we used the diamond from my grandma’s ring that I was going to inherit, he had to ask my mom for it.

I found out from him that he had asked and gotten it 3-4 weeks after the fact. The reason he told me is because I planned on asking my mom to see the ring and measure the stone so I would have a better idea of what band would go well with it.

Since the ring still had to be ordered/made, it took another 4-5 months before he proposed.

Post # 5
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601 posts
Busy bee

no, we’ve got a modern romance, we decided together to get engaged and then surprised our parents together

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I told him not to ask my dad because my dad would think that’s weird. I can imagine the look on my dads face and telling him “you’re asking the wrong person” haha. I think it’s so very odd that people will ask a grown adults parents for permission to get married. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

He didn’t ask, he told them he was going to do it, day of, before he did it. Thought it was weird that my mom caressed his face. Made sense a few hours later. The engagement was a complete surprise to me.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

My now Darling Husband asked my parents. My father spilled the beans as soon as he left their house lol. He called me congratulating me. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We were together 11 years when we got engaged, our families were SO ready so there was no need to ask my dad for permission. The day of the proposal he took my dad to lunch just to clue him in, likewise he called his mom on the way to tell her too. Prior to that no one knew to keep it a secret.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Neither my fiance nor I asked or told eachother’s parents beforehand. We decided to get engaged together, and because we’re cheesy saps we wanted a proposal as well. After the proposal (actually about a week later – I wanted to enjoy being engaged for a little without people freaking out over a wedding) we called our repsective parents to let them know.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Darling Husband called my mom about an hour before he proposed (I was in the bathroom). He just let her know what was going to happen though, he didn’t ask permission. He would have told her before that, but we’re too close and he knew she couldn’t keep the secret!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My husband asked my parents! I had a suspicion because drove an hour to their hosue to fix a lamp when he would have done it when we both were at their house a few days prior. My husband ended up telling me that he asked (before the proposal) when I was crying because I thought he might be changing his mind about proposing because he was taking so long lol. He asked my parents in June, bought the ring in September, and proposed in November

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Yes, he asked, because I am super traditional and he knows my family wanted to be involved. It served a dual purpose though, because my mother and Maid/Matron of Honor were then included in helping him set it up at our family’s traditional christmas eve party. My poor dad was asked, and then purposely left out of the planning and was as surprised as me. Apparently they thought he couldn’t keep a secret. Ha! 

I had no idea. We had picked the ring together, and planned it all out, but he was talking about asking me at his police academy graduation. When he actually proposed three months earlier, I was in total shock. I have no idea how my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor kept it from me.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

We were on vacation with my family in Mexico so he told my parents a couple of days before he did it. It wasn’t like an ‘asking permission’ thing because My dad and now-husband know they’d get a big laugh and a lecture in feminism and antiquated gender roles if either of them pretended that I needed any permission.

It was mostly a gesture for my dad who I’m extremely close to, it meant a lot to him to feel involved in some way. It was also reassuring for my husband to see how excited my dad was about it and to have my parents’ blessing and enthusiasm

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