Did things change after marrying your live-in FI?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 16
2168 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Nothing much changed. What changes your life and relationship is kids. LOL.

Post # 17
830 posts
Busy bee

BrightGreen :  this is exactly how I’d describe it. It’s a very subtle feeling of stability and security. 

Otherwise no, nothing. 

Post # 18
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I did NOT live with DH prior to getting married. We wanted to wait. Best decision ever! For us personally anyways. Everything was different and new and it still is and I love having all of these huge firsts together as a married couple- first holidays, etc. It was also nice to come home from our honeymoon to our new place together and enjoy the newlywed buzz! 


ETA: It helps that he and I knew each other 11+ years before getting married and he also happens to be the neatest, most helpful roommate ever. Not hard to adjust to that!

Post # 20
4858 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Other than laughing about how weird it is to be a husband or a wife , nope. 

Post # 21
1151 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We lived together for a few years before getting married, but I did notice the subtle change that some PPs have mentioned, and it was awesome.  It was just a feeling of even deeper comfort and stability, and pride that this amazing person is my HUSBAND and we are officially each other’s family now.  I love it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 22
6883 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

kcwilson11 :  Yep we had a child so everything changed!  Been married almost 6 years and have a 5 yr old child

Post # 23
139 posts
Blushing bee

Nope, not even my name. We lived together about a year beforehand. But I guess it was nice making the committment public and celebrating with everyone. It felt official and made our families happy (I think so anyway). 

Post # 24
749 posts
Busy bee

Nothing much changed. Lots of joking about being stuck with each other! 

We’re perhaps a little more insular than we were, more reluctant to go off and visit people. More content to stay at home with just us.

Nothing really tangible.

We’ve been married 4 years, living together 6 years, together 10.

Post # 25
1452 posts
Bumble bee

Things definitely did change for us after getting married, despite us living together for almost 2 years during our engagement.  We honestly did not think much would change, but it did for the better.  There was a sense of “completion” for us and the intimacy and bond we had just grew deeper and more intense.  My Darling Husband is a very masculine no-nonsense guy so it shocked me how much he loved and got all mushy calling me his wife.  Even after being married for three years, he still gets a kick out of calling me his wife and wanting to let everyone we meet know that we are married (I honestly believed this part would get old after a few months).  The biggest thing for me though is how committed and solid our relationship feels even during our worst moments because both Darling Husband & I can feel viscerally that both of us are here to stay and make this work No Matter What.

There is something very special about saying your vows in front of your family and friends.  Another thing that changed for us is now being acknowledged and recognized as a solid unit in all of our social interactions professionally and personally.  I love being called “Mrs. (DH’s last name)” and being recognized as a married woman.  Maybe it’s because I waited for a long time to be with the right person, but whenever I’m called by my married name, I still to this day get a small feeling triggered that reminds me “hey I’m no longer a single girl but now a married woman.”  

And honestly, just knowing that at then end of the day I get to go home to my HUSBAND will never get old. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 26
2123 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

Not really, no. We got pregnant 4 months after marriage though and having a baby changed everything.

Post # 27
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I feel like our relationship definitly changed but for the better. Just knowing me were married made everything feel different, in a GOOD way. I felt like we were more complete as a couple.

I always kind of feel bad for people who say they feel exactly the same as they did before they got married becuase that feeling I got from knowing we were married was so special.

Post # 28
2631 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

People are always asking us how married life is, and my responds is, “basically the same as before”.  DH always says, “its good- the same as before, but she has a new name.”

We lived together for 6 months before the wedding.


I do think we are happier now, but that’s due to not having wedding stress, not really because of the marriage.

Post # 29
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

kcwilson11 :  Nothing changed whatsoever for us after we got married! We lived together for almost 2 years beforehand. 

Post # 30
3290 posts
Sugar bee

Nothing changed with us, except my name and he refers to me as his wife, not ‘the mrs’ like he used to lol.

People ask how married life is and I say “the same as before”

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