Did things change after marrying your live-in FI?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t seehow anything would change if yoI’ve already lived together so long 

Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We lived together for about 2.5 years, married for 4 months. Nothing has changed but that awkward transition of calling him ‘husband’ – which is exactly what we both hoped for and joke about frequently.

Post # 33
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Not at all, it was business as usual.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Nothing changed, but in a great way. Like, we were so happy before we got married and were living together, and being able to just come home after our wedding to a comfortable place, without adjustements of learning to live together, was amazing.

It was like we got to savor all the magic of our wedding day a little longer because we didn’t have those other factors (how do we budget, whose stuff goes where, wow you leave the dishes in the sink okay wow, etc.).

I mean, you feel a little different knowing that you’re actually legally married, that you can call each other Mr. and Mrs., but for the most part it’s like the same but better. And it keeps getting better! We’ll be married 2 years in November, and have lived together for 4, and it’s absolutely the best.

Congrats bee!

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Other than feeling more connected and more committed to each other, not much has changed. We always used to say that we already felt like we were married. We got married on our 4 year anniversary and we moved in after a few months of dating. Everything just becomes more official and comfortable, I suppose. I think there are more bumps in the road if you were not living together and/or not being intimate prior to marriage or you are not together for that long before getting married.

Post # 36
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

My husband and I lived together for almost 3 years before getting married (together for 5). Literally the ONLY thing that changed after marriage was that I use the word “husband” all the time. I love saying it! 🙂 But seriously that’s it. I didn’t even change my name. 

Everyone is always asking me how married life is (we got married 11 months ago) and my response is always “exactly the same as before.” 

Post # 37
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Bumble bee

kcwilson11 :  

I didn’t think anything changed to be honest.

However, it felt different in a good way. It’s a weird feeling, my husband was overly happy because I had his last name lol.

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper

kcwilson11 :  The only thing that changed was the mail, ha.  I got my mail in my married name.  Other than that nothing changed and we lived together for 9 months before we got married.

Post # 39
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

Aside from logistical things, i.e. name change and taxes and the occasional fuzzy wuzzy “We’re married now” feeling, nothing changed at all. 

Post # 40
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

ktsteimel :  Hahaha, don’t feel bad for me because nothing changed after the wedding! We just both felt 100% committed and secure and in this for life before the wedding. Basically, we didn’t need the wedding for that special feeling of knowing “Hey I’m with you forever now” the wedding was just for telling everyone else!

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

hikingbride :  Good! I think the longer a couple is together before the wedding the less of a change it probably feels like.

I can think of one couple in particular they were together forever and got married just to get married. And after they were like, “yup everything is just the same old boring married life”. It was kind of like womp womp.

Post # 42
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

skunktastic :  I’ve waited five years 🙂 My Fiance and I get married this September! That’s all I figure will change! 

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Nope! In a good way; life was grand before and is after too. We lived together a total of 2 years before marriage, one year dating and one year engaged.

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We started living together after 5-6 months of dating. After we got engaged it was a little different because we were suddenly building this whole future together. After marriage the only thing that changed was if for example he asks me to pass the salt, and I do, he responds ‘thanks hot wife’ instead of ‘thanks hot stuff’ lol. 

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I too had that “feeling” that I cannot quite describe.  But we had a pretty unique situation.  We were high school sweethearts and engaged in college.  We broke up for reasons to long to get into here (I’ve posted before about it) but it amounted to us being too immature for the pressures of being in college.  We were apart for 7 years before we got back together.  For my husband especially, I think saying our vows cemented things for him and that he wasn’t going to lose me again.  I noticed a subtle difference in his behavior like he even went more out of his way to do the little day to day things to show me he cared.  We’ve been married 3 years and just had a baby and I love that he still calls me his bride.  I get a warm, fuzzy feeling seeing him wearing his wedding band (and he also got a wedding band tatoo which I think is totally cool!).  He still takes my hand and puts his arm around me in public.  I think getting married just made our relationship stronger.

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