(Closed) Did We Make A Mistake With A Gift?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1000 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Not that I know of.. I mean, as long as she doesn’t have the opinion already that you disapprove of her marriage, it’s most likely no big deal. If she does, then she may think that this is a snarky way of expressing that disapproval. But really, aside from that it seems like a complete non-issue.

Post # 3
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

No you didn’t. Sure the gifts are for both of them, but you are only showering her that day. Not him. Don’t worry about it. I had my shower a couple weeks ago and my Fiance wasn’t mentioned on any of the cards or anything.

Post # 4
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - hotel

Could she have been saying ‘huh’ as in thinking ‘ooh it’s only in my name, I can get myself something heheee’ kind of way. I know I’d be feeling a little guilty about wanting to spend money on myself so would probably come across awkwardly.

But if she was being funny about it, it’s her problem not yours.

Post # 5
1847 posts
Buzzing bee

No I think you’re fine! As PP mentioned it was a shower for her not both of them!

Post # 6
2715 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Nope, I don’t think you did anything wrong by writing just her name.  I’m pretty sure the vast majority of my shower gifts were addressed only to me.  Who knows what the “huh” was for…

Post # 7
1164 posts
Bumble bee

Maybe she was expecting gifts from the registry and it hadn’t occurred to her that people sometimes get gift cards for people for where they ae registered as well and she was reacting to the gift card rather than what was written in the card.

Post # 8
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

What? Did she say thank you? Maybe she was just reading the card.

Post # 9
4892 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

All of my shower cards were addressed to me, and not us as a couple – as it was not a couples shower. I wouldn’t have thought twice!

You did not do anything wrong!

Post # 10
2685 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t see a problem with what you did.  Tons of people address bridal shower gifts to the bride only since she’s the guest of honor.  If it was a couples shower, I could see where including both names would be more necessary.

Post # 11
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

brendaray2009:  I always thought that bridal shower is the presents for the BRIDE as opposed to Wedding gifts – presents for the couple?

Post # 12
1669 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Where I’m from people only give physical gifts at showers, maybe it was the gift card that threw her off, not the name. Not like it’s bad to give a gift card, it might just have been unexpected!

Post # 13
2783 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s a BRIDAL shower. Yes, you know the guy is likley going to use or “enjoy” the gift, but it’s a party for the BRIDE, so of course the gifts would be addressed to her. If the “huh” was actually over that then she needs a lesson in being more gracious. Please tell me the “huh” was at least followed by a thank you…

Post # 14
3842 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

brendaray2009:  I see no problem with what you did. I never address a bridal shower card to the couple, just the bride. 

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