Post # 17
When I got engaged, I was really excited and went straight to Barnes and Noble to check out some magazines and get ideas. When I made it official and told everybody, they were happy for me and I talked with them about general ideas I had.
I had one person keep pushng their ideas on me, and when I didn’t seem interested in the color they liked or the venue they picked for me, they kinda shut down and changed the subject. I didn’t really understand that…
Another friend…I dunno. I can give a bunch of examples. I never wanted anyone to sit down with me with magazines for 3 hours, but I thought atleast someone would be excited for me. Some of them keep promising to help later, and they don’t bring it up, so I don’t push for it.
There was even one friend who I called to ask about my engagement party — if they prefered this restaurant or the other (I was planning it). They dismissed me because they didn’t like my idea, and just said “Eugh, don’t worry, I’ll plan you something myself later and it’ll be good.” Good? What? Because my idea wasn’t good?
I just really don’t feel like anybody cares. I understand people have lives, but I thought the people closest to me would show some interest or humor me.
I don’t even have anyone to go dress shopping with.
Post # 18
@leporidae: A bit. Even though I don’t have a ton of friends, I was more depressed about the situation with my family. There are a lot of rifts going on there.
Post # 19
Planning started out to be exciting to me but am constantly being told that its too far away to be making such plans and the wedding is in 9 months sigh
Post # 20
@NadzB: if wedding is abroad, *of course* you need to plan now. dont listen to them =)
Post # 21
@leporidae: Yes, I feel like this sometimes. I have always had a small number of friends and my family isn’t very large either. Plus my family lives on another continent so they probably won’t all be able to come. My boyfriend (waiting till my ring gets here to make it official) is actually the same except his family lives closer. We’re going to have probably around 50 people at the wedding. We don’t know if we will have a bridal party. He can’t decide between his 4 friends ado my closest friends live on another continent and I’m not sure if she will be able to come. Another possible bridesmaid is BF’s sister and i just keep thinking how pathetic it would look if she were my MOH! Like I don’t even have my own friends 🙁
So in short, yes, I do feel bummed out sometimes. You are not alone.