Post # 1
Either positively or negatively?
For example did you become closer or more passionate?
did you fall/grow apart?
Maybe weight loss changed your relationship in other ways or maybe not at all? Just interested to see how things like self esteem etc affect a relationship!
Post # 3
I haven’t been in this situation, but I’m interested in what people have to say.
Post # 4
VERY positively 🙂 I lost 30 pounds and being more active lead to doing more activities, being less cranky because junk food can make you groggy/tired. Passion increased, insecurities decreased, and he loves the fact that I am healthier and happier!
Post # 5
Commenting to see responses.
Post # 6
Yes, it’s been great – I have more energy, so I’m more active, and we do more together, so we feel closer. My weight loss has also helped my partner lose weight, and that has helped us get even closer (another level of closeness). We’re both happier in general.
Post # 7
I’ve just lost over 20kg (nearly 50 pounds, am now a size 6 US), I’m probably about 5 -8kg lighter than I was when we met four years ago. The only difference is my Fiance gets a kick out of feeling my spine when he rubs my back or whatever, lol. He marvels at feeling my bones, haha. I do too actually, it is super weird after years of being more fleshy! He was always still into intimacy even while I was bigger and complementary when I dressed up but now he is even more so and is always telling me how great I look and how well I’ve done. Super supportive!
We always worked out together anyway – except now I can beat him running whereas before I used to get cranky at always getting left behind 🙂
Post # 8
No real change for me, and I lost a lot of weight, 50 lbs plus. It’s clear enough from the increased volume of compliments that Dh likes how I look, but he’s careful about what he says. He’s afraid that if he’s too complimentary that will mean he didn’t like how I looked before or something.
His exw trained him to watch for minefields so now he’s overly cautious about discussions involving weight, whereas I tend to be open about my battles.
Dh has said he doesn’t want me to lose anymore, but my doctor says the same thing.
So, really, no changes in our relationship other than my own intuitive sense that Dh is a little more proud to be seen with me.
Post # 9
Commenting to see responses. For me, I feel like it would be positive because I would want to “show off” my new body so that would increase the intimacy. But I have read where the guy gets crazy jealous and mean because the girl is getting “hotter” and that makes them scared or whatever lol
Post # 10
Yep! Ive lost 29 lbs. He motivated me every step of the way. I am able to go hiking with him now and not complain the whole time…just half now lol and I am much more secure with how I look in and out of clothes. He is more attracted to me now that I lost my extra weight as well and that has helped in the intimacy department. Him being proud of me really boosted my confidence.
Post # 11
@marie2555: When I am working out my confidence increases so much. Which is way better for intimate life.
I feel like I have more energy and I love my body more!
With my fiance it only matters in the sense of how much better I feel about myself.
Post # 12
We both got way more into fitness over the course of our relationship… Darling Husband was about 225 lbs when we started dating and is now in the 180’s, so he had a more dramatic change, but I also have toned up. It has affected our relationship very positively! Who wouldn’t want to see their loved ones looking hotter?
Post # 13
@jesssamesssa: You’re beautiful before and after. You look GREAT!
Post # 14
@BoxerLady: Thank you. Youre very sweet!
Post # 15
@jesssamesssa: Wow, you look absolutely gorgeous! And I agree, you looked beautiful before too. 🙂
How long did it take you to lose that if you don’t mind me asking?
For me personally, it’s been up and downs. The problem is, he always used to tell me that I didn’t need to lose weight, I looked beautiful the way I was, etc. (but doctors told me I should lose), so it negatively would affect our relationship. He’s finally come to accept my weight loss journey, so it’s getting better.
Post # 16
I can comment on the flip side with a weight gain – 10 years ago, when I was 21 and in my first serious relationship, we fell into a very bad slump and just generally were unhealthy. 7-11 runs all the time, just watched movies, no exercising.
I think I gained about 30 pounds, and became very unhappy with myself and who I was, and that definitely affected the relationship. I think I blamed him (unfairly)
We broke up and I took charge after that, kept that weight off for about the last 5 years. And I am so happy when I think about where I could have been today if I hadn’t made the decision to end it (the relationship and the unhealthy habits)