Did/will you change your name?

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: What did/will you do?

    Keep my name

    Take my partner's name

    Keep my name professionally but go by my partner's name in social situations

    Something else?

  • Post # 16
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    982 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    I’m changing my last name to his. I have no particular attachment to my last name, and I love the idea of us both having the same last name. If it mattered to my career, though, I’d probably keep my last name and just use his socially. Or if his last name was particularly bad (not gonna give an example in case it is someone on here’s last name lol), or really long and hard to spell/pronounce, I’d keep my last name, and possibly have him change his last name to mine if he was open to it. But as it is, me changing my last name was a very easy decision for me and I’m happy to do it.

    Post # 17
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    1961 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I took his name. I wanted nothing to do with my maiden name. I love being able to start fresh. 

     

    Changing my name wasn’t that hard honestly. The only thing that sucks is all the rewards cards/accounts you don’t think of that also need to be changed. 

    Post # 18
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    127 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2020

    I’m taking my partner’s last name, but my maiden name will become my middle name. All the women in my family have done it that way 🙂

    Post # 19
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    127 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2020

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    xjsbellamias13 :  that’s what I’m doing too – you don’t hear that a lot!

    Post # 20
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    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017 - Orange County, CA

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    jas15 :  Hi bee! I am a teacher too and I absolutely didn’t want to change my name.  Hundreds of students and ten years of kids calling me Ms. X helped to cement my name as an integral part of my identity (one that I am very proud of!)

    Post # 21
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    150 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: Fireman’s Pavillion

    My Fiance was dead set on me taking his last name, because he wants us to really be a team unit. However, I will be hyphenating my last name since I have publications and awards attached to my name. I want it to be easily to connect the dots that those are mine. So my surname is my last name-his last name. Our kids will only have his last name though. Fiance was a little upset at first, but eventually came around to it.

    Post # 22
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    4411 posts
    Honey bee

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    klr4589 :  My aunt and uncle didnt give middle names to their daughters because the expectation was to move the maiden name to the middle name.  My mom followed suit and I would do the same if I was taking his last name.  

    It allows you to keep that part of yourself.  

    Post # 23
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    1613 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    I’m not sure yet. I posted a similar question a while back. 

    I don’t want to change mine but it’s super important to my fiancé that I do. I’ve decided I won’t for now, but may eventually change my mind. 

    Post # 24
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    666 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: London, UK

    We are both becoming double barreled.

    Post # 25
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    207 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2020

    I am also a teacher, with multiple masters and used to being Ms. X, so I am keeping my name. I also feel very uncomfortable with the name changing tradition as a whole, it could be because the women in my family all kept theirs. So yea, keeping my name legally and socially 

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    jas15 :  

    Post # 26
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    258 posts
    Helper bee

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    jas15 :  I plan to change my last name. The process isnt that hard or complicated and when done in the right steps shouldn’t take much stress. Much of it can now be done online or at least partially online (print off the forms and bring them in rather than having to go in, wait for them to give them to you, fill them out, wait for them to call your name). So I’m kinda tired of the “the process is hard” excuse. I dont consider changing my name as losing my identity. A name is a name. Your friends wont suddenly find you unrecognizable, your boss isnt going to whiteout all of your hard work and make you start over with a new name. Though I do admit there is an “awkward” transition with the professional side of clients, co workers or in your case pupils adjusting to the new name. It’s a personal decision and can be hard to make. 

     

    Post # 28
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    114 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’m in exactly the same boat! Fiancé is so set on me changing my name but I really don’t want to 🙁 

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    Post # 29
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    103 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’m planning on keeping my last name professionally, but using his last name socially. But to be honest… I have no idea what to do legally?

    If I legally change my last name to his, is it controversial to still have my last name on job resumes, etc? If anyone’s had any experience or advice on what to do legally in this situation I’d love to hear it. It seems like keeping my last name legally but not socially might be the least problematic option

    Post # 30
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    131 posts
    Blushing bee

    I am going to change my last name to my husbands.  My father was a bum and I have zero attachment to my last name.  Even if I did I would still change my last name.  I personally don’t feel I am giving up my identity by taking his last name.

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