Post # 31
- Wedding: February 2020 - Windermere, Cumbria
I have a very abusive father so I will take my fiance’s surname.
Bonus funny points as my name is very similar to my FSIL’s name! (Like Anne/Anna).
However, I am half Italian so on that side it will be First-name/second-first-name/Maiden-name/New-surname.
I feel bad for my mum as she has 2 first names, 3 middle names, and 2 surnames haha!
Post # 32
I’ll probably add my fh name on the end, after my maiden name, without a hyphen, just like I did the first time around.
Post # 33
- Wedding: February 2020 - Breckenridge, CO
lynnnie : I’m in the same boat. I think I’ll keep my maiden name legally that way everything work related stays the same. But I’ll go by his last name with friends and family and I won’t correct anyone that refers to me by his last name.
Post # 34
I kept my name. Apart from the feminist side of things, which is important to me, I just couldnt think of a reason to do it apart from tradition. So, I didnt. I think you’ll be surprised at how little thought you actually give it once the wedding etc is all over, it really doesn’t affect your life much.
Post # 35
I’ll keep mine. I was bullied for it as a kid and once would’ve welcomed the chance to change it, but now it feels like part of my identity. That said, I was bullied for it as a kid, so I’d like our kids to have his name.
My fiance actually said he strongly prefers me to keep mine because it’s too weird to him if it changes.
Post # 36
- Wedding: September 2019 - Beverly Hills, CA
I will be doing the same as bbk8 because I dont want to think about my abusive parents. I dont need a reminder of my past with them and look forward to writing a new story with a new family (and I also love my future in-laws!).
Also it’s really stupid but my current last name is a really famous alcohol brand name and I’m straight edge and totally over people commenting on how awesome my last name is because OMG ALCOHOL.
Post # 37
I’ll keep my maiden name professionally and go by my fiance’s name socially. I want to legally change my name because I want the same legal name as future children, but I’ll make my maiden a second middle name.
Post # 38
We got married in September, but I’m just starting the process of legally changing my name. I find it to be exciting yet a bit sad! I’ve been jazzy last name for 31 years , and now seeing my new name on things is so different!
(even though I practiced my new signature for months before we got married haha)
i changed it because I wanted our future children and family to all have the same last name. Even though I love my maiden name , we decided it might be a good middle name some day 🙂
Post # 39
I’m keeping my name, as is my fiancé. Mainly this is because it’s a really strong part of my identity and the way I see myself, and I don’t want to change that. My supporting reasons for not changing are feminism, keeping a link with my dad who died a few years ago, acknowledging a particular ethnic/national heritage, and mundanely because if I changed it I would have the same name as a politician my workplace deals with a lot.
I think it’s a lot of hassle to change a name so I’d want to have a good active reason to do it (and tradition isn’t a good reason for me).
Post # 40
I use my partners name in every day life but keep my maiden name for my passport, driving license and some other documents. My maiden name is fairly common so I use my partners name professionally.
I don’t mind using two names, but my partners name is the one I primarily use on emails, work, most bills and for introducing myself.
Post # 41
- Wedding: July 2019 - City, State
Changing it! I haaaate my last name, it’s always getting mispronouced and misspelled and it’s just an ugly looking word, so I’m very much looking forward to taking his last name. It’s a common word, I can’t wait to not have to spell out my entire name over the phone to people!
Post # 42
I will be taking his name. My situation is just like mel2, my dad was adopted and we don’t have a relationship so my current last name doesn’t have much meaning or attachment for me. My middle name is more meaningful as it is a tradition passed down in my mom’s side.
Post # 43
I’m still trying to decide. My fiance wants me to keep my last name only because he knows thats what I want, but I don’t think I want to have a different last name from our future children. Fiance has even offered to give our future children both our last names, I’m just not I want to do that either. Today, I’m 60% sure I’m changing it.
Post # 44
I took his name. I hated my maiden name. It’s commonly used as a first name, so people would constantly say my name backwards (even though I’ve never heard of anyone with my first name as a last name). It’s also an actual word that is frequently used in Christmas songs, so the holidays were pretty annoying. People thought they were really original when they would sing those songs to me.
Post # 45
It’s a no-brainer for me. Changing my middle name to my maiden name, as per what’s usually done.