Did/Will you change your surname on marriage? What did/does your family/SO feel?

posted 1 month ago in Names
Post # 76
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I will be keeping my name, as for me going through the hassle of a name change serves absolutely not purpose other than to reduce my identity to “wife of”. 

This decision was very easy and uncomplicated for us, thankfully, as we are not having any children and neither of us are particularly “traditional”. It was never even a conversation really because my fiance just doesn’t care one way or the other and I’d always been pretty open any time the topic did come up in conversation with him or others that I had no desire to ever change my name. In fact, he’d probably find it a bit odd if I did decide to change my name because it’s quite out of character for me. 

I’ve been signing cards and stuff from the two of us as “from the “MyLast-HisLast’s” or “from HisFirst and MyFirst MyLast-HisLast” since we bought our house together and no one has ever said anything about it. 

I have been considering tacking his last name on socially though (ie on social media and stuff), because I do like the idea of acknowledging that I am now part of that family too, but at the same time I don’t really think it’s necessary and if I didn’t like his name or it sounded weird with mine I wouldn’t even consider it lol 

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