Did /will you let your SO see your wedding dress before the big day?

posted 3 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
3529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

He saw it without knowing it. I showed him a group of like, 10 dresses and told him my dress was in the group. So that was my way of showing him while still maintaining the surprise. 

Post # 3
1512 posts
Bumble bee

Mine has seen the general type. I chose a style I knew he would like. 


He walked into the spare room one day and was worried he’d seen it, but it was just some tulle. Lol. 


And we’re not doing a first look. 

Post # 4
961 posts
Busy bee

Mine was kept a surprise. Darling Husband in a panic walked into my changing room before the ceremony looking for the binder with the ceremony script – it didn’t even register for him that I was wearing my dress. He said he doesn’t recall seeing me in my dress prior to me walking down the aisle. 

Post # 5
6662 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

No. Dh never had even a hint of what my dress would be like, and we didn’t have a “first look”. It was one of the only times I’ve seen tears in his eyes. 

Post # 6
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

I showed him pictures of me in the dress and tried to convince him to see me in it while I was trying on veils, but he didn’t want to. Honestly, he forgets things so easily that it’ll still be a surprise regardless! 

We plan on doing a first look and most of our photos before the ceremony.

Post # 7
773 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

My dress was a mystery, and we did do a first look! 🙂 I was happy that it was a secret until he saw me. It made it a more impactful moment, I think!

Post # 8
6718 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

dawnlikethesunrise :  mine saw pics before I even tried it on and knew it was the winner. He probably saw it on the hanger as well, can’t remember. The only thing he didn’t see was me wearing it until we did our photos that day. Odds are your fiancé won’t really notice it except as a whole. He’ll think you look great but not have a clue about the fancy details that make your dress special. Mine remembers mine as fifties looking and white. 

Post # 9
846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn

dawnlikethesunrise :  I didn’t let him see it and he didn’t want to. We did a first look so I needed something to be a surprise lol

Post # 10
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Concord, Ontario

Our dresses will be complete surprise and we aren’t doing a first look 

Post # 11
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2019 - City, State

Mine did see it. But he came wedding dress shopping with me since I didn’t have anyone else to go. He was a huge support and help. 

Post # 12
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - River Museum & Aquarium

Darling Husband did not see my dress before I walked down the aisle. This was his preference, and in fact, one of the only wedding things he felt very strongly about. 

Does your fi have a preference?

Post # 13
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

My husband saw me in my dress many times, because I practised in it almost every weekend at home before the wedding. He even saw me get ready on the day of the wedding. I didn’t feel the need for any surprises and don’t regret anything. 🙂

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