Post # 1
Here’s the thing, I was so excited once we finally got engaged I kind of didn’t think far ahead. Our possible venue emailed me this week asking when we wanted to visit and a list of all the things we needed to discuss. FI and I sat down yesterday and tried to find a common ground to work from.
It feels impossible!
He wants the three of us (us two and our daughter) and whichever close family wants to join us to go to Vanuatu or Fiji or somewhere and just have a small, quiet wedding and enjoy being away for a couple of weeks. Or to stay home and just get married quietly at a registry office and have a meal with his family.
Part of me wants either of these options (probably the first one!) quite happily. However, all my family and friends are on the otherside of the world and I kind of feel that if I’m going to invite them to our wedding then it has to be an ‘event’ as such to warrant them coming all the way, but at the same time I don’t even know how many, if any of them would come and I don’t want all our plans to revolve around that. If we had it at this venue which I LOVE it would be 50-70 people in big English style gardens with a relaxed tea party vibe.
FI likes the idea but HATES the thought of people staring at us for a whole day and I think this is why he prefers the idea of something small and intimate.
Did you know straight off what kind of wedding you wanted? How long did it take you to decide?
Post # 3
@Snowden: We decided on a large family event fairly quickly, but if I were to go back and do it all again, I’d totally go small. Honestly, I wanted to have it both ways, so we just went with bigger. 😛 Could you two call a compromise? A destination wedding with about 30-40?
Post # 4
when i was younger i wanted a huge affair, the older i got, the smaller i wanted it to be.
my wedding will be 135 invited, it is bigger than i wanted but FI has a lot of people to invite that he didn’t want to cut out.
Post # 5
Family is very important to both of us and knew the day wouldn’t be the same without them. We both have very large families and are having 300+ guests. It’s exactly what we always wanted and what everyone expects from us.
Post # 6
When I was younger I wanted a huge wedding at a hall…
Now I want a tiny wedding (60 people) at a nice country inn…
factors that changed my mind:
– I think inn’s are prettier than halls
– I only want people I really care about to be there
– when my dad died I sorta just stopped caring about having a huge thing since he wont be there
Post # 7
I always wanted a big wedding. Just could not imagine it any other way. Dh would have been happy with a much smaller affair (50) people BUT I usually have that many people at our kids birthday parties and for Thanksgiving. I think we had a medium sized wedding ( around 133 people) and it worked out perfectly for us. Plus if I was going to invite my family who I just had to invite, I had to have an event to invite them to. We had been together for so long, everyone was waiting for our wedding day.