Post # 16
We really only “coordinated” because my dress is ivory, not true white, so one of the ladies at the bridal salon suggested he and the groomsmen get ivory/candlelight shirts to match. The possibility that white shirts would look “off” against the color of my dress was honestly something that had never occurred to us. And, nothing in our wedding is true white, everything from the flowers to the chairs to the table linens is ivory. From then on we were careful to make sure that everything was ivory, not white (not that anyone would have probably noticed or cared, but after the difference was pointed out to me I knew it would bother me).
That’s as far as coordinating went for us, though. It was also suggested that maybe Fi wear an ivory bow tie instead of black to match me, but I don’t think we’ll end up going with that. You definitely don’t want to get too matchy-matchy and look like you’re going to prom (that’s personally why we nixed the vest idea).
Post # 17
ladyartichoke : Some dresses aren’t truly white. If you put a guy in a stark white shirt next to a bride in an ivory dress, it does look a little weird. Most people don’t usually think of that, though. Fi and I were only aware because someone at the bridal salon told us.
Post # 18
My dress is blush and he wants to wear a grey suit. He also doesn’t want to see my dress. So I am in charge of figuring out what grey matches my particular colour of blush and then telling him the results!
Post # 19
nch000 : I’ve never thought of that, my dress is blush too. I think Fiance will wear a navy or dark blue suit (haven’t started looking yet), so now I’m not sure how I’ll know if it will look good together haha..
Post # 20
zl27 : Sorry that wasn’t very clear, he did wear a suit (blue)! I just meant that we didn’t bother to coordinate his shirt with my dress like some couples do.
Post # 21
I agree with pp who said that unless the choice is quite quirky or unique, you’ll probably match by default.
Post # 22
missyjz : I have my dress (it is from the internet 🙂 ) so I am literally just taking it to suit places and comparing the colours. I didn’t really think of this either but my mom pointed out that not all blush and grey work particularly well together. Can you take a piece of fabric from your dress and do the same?
The white/ivory shirt tip is something I hadn’t thought of either!
Post # 23
annaille : I did. However, that’s because my Fiance wanted a white tux, and I was like, bro my dress is blush and cream. I don’t want to look dirty standing next to you. He knows the dress is a blush aline. I don’t think it ruins the surprise. I also thought that black was too much. He chose navy, and its perfect against my dress!
Post # 24
Darling Husband got a custom made suit. Thank goodness it had a good return policy cus the first one he got looked sooo absurd. I told him he looked like he should have a shirt unbuttoned to his belly button, slicked back hair, puma shoes, gold chains, and a sleek sports car.
Once he saw it he couldn’t unsee it.. but when he was making choices at the suit place he just couldn’t picture all his choices together and they all sounded “cool” bahaha.
So anyway, yeah. We kind of coordinated as in I made sure he bought a suit that he wouldn’t regret. (My husband is best described as “basic” in his style..)
Post # 25
MY FH is wearing his military uniform and my dress is champagne, with peacock color accents. We’re not really going to match at all. He’s retired army so dark green uniform. They also don’t wear boutonnieres with the uniform he’s marrying me in.
I’m more concerned about snagging my dress on his medal rack and making sure I pick heels the right height so I’m not taller than him in photos. I’m actually really excited for how we’re going to look in photos together, not because we’re going to match but because we’re going for a vintage vibe to our wedding and I have some awesome war time wedding photos I’ve talked him into trying out with me for posing and ideas.
There’s not a single part of my wedding party that’s going to match though. His best man will be in his navy firefighters uniform. My Maid of honor will be in a knee length 40s inspired dress and our daughter will be in high waisted 1940s pant and a sparkly top.