(Closed) Did you and your spouse fight a lot while looking for a house?

posted 7 years ago in Home
Post # 3
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Yes, there have been arguments and tears on my side.  It’s been a real test in compromising.

Post # 4
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Surprisingly no. We pretty much agreed on what we wanted in a house, fell in love with the first one we saw and bought it. The buying process was pretty stressfull, as was moving. But that’s just life!

Post # 5
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

OMG!!! YES! You are not alone at all! Things can get very tense with homebuying b/c you make so many life altering plans around something that is SOOO unpredictable. For instance I live in an apt with a roommate and my lease is up in about 4 weeks. The plan was for us to have a house by the end of summer and I would just move in when my lease is up. Welllllllll we’ve been house hunting since March and nothing yet. We’ve gotten rejected numerous times and I fuss at him b/c I think his standards need to go down or our budget needs to go up and he disagrees with me. My Future Father-In-Law is our realtor and I feel left out at times b/c I dont always know the inner details of what is going on. It has been sooooooo stressful for me since March. So trust me you are not alone. But my only advice is dont give up, your house is out there somewhere! Feel good knowing that when you all finally get the house it WILL be perfect 😀

Post # 6
14658 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No, we didn’t really fight, but we also weren’t really in a rush to look for a house.  We disagreed on homes that one of us liked more than the other, but in the end we found one we both loved and neither of us had to ‘settle’ or give in.  We also ended up raising our budget by about 20% to get there.

Post # 7
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yes. It was crazy!!! I think we both went into it thinking we wanted ____ but of course as you shop around, you start to realize you’d rather have something else, and the priority list starts shifting a bit. It took us forever to find a house and Darling Husband completely gave up. I had to BEG him to come to one last neighbourhood for two hours and that’s when we found our house. It was so stressful being on the cusp of such a big change, but just not finding the right place.

We’re going through the same thing right now looking for land. I just want to find a piece, buy it, build. Darling Husband is so much more methodical and it bugs me that he acts like we have all the time in the world when I feel like we have to do it NOW!!!!! LOL!


Post # 8
3942 posts
Honey bee

No, we have really similar tastes so finding a hosue we both love was the easy part. However, going through the mortgage process was a nightmare and very stressful. We didnt really fight, we were both just super stressed out for a couple of months.

Post # 8
1807 posts
Buzzing bee

YES YES YES. Someone had purchased our condo quickly (we weren’t expecting it to sell so soon), so we only had 3 weeks to find a new home and we hadn’t even started looking. It was majorly stressful.

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