Post # 1
I’m thinking of asking guests not to take pictures during the ceremony. I’m worried for starters, about it being distracting to them and to us. I don’t want to feel like an animal in a cage at the zoo! As a guest, I’d never dream of taking picutres during the ceremony, I’d want to witness every moment, not be fussing with my camera! Also, I’m worried that having flashes and stuff going off randomly from a bunch of different cameras may impact professional photography. If I’m going to fork out $1500 for pro pictures, I don’t want to risk that the pro pictures are messed up by other camera’s flashes.
Also, this is dumb but, my grandma still uses one of those old film cameras. So when a roll is over it makes that loud whirring and clicking noise as the film winds up. My mom has been embarassed time and time again (brother’s graduation, my graduations, etc.) by her mother’s camera making all that awful racket at such an inappropriate time.
I want to put up a sign by the program basket and also have the ushers mention it. I’d also put a line in the program and spread it word-of-mouth.
Did anyone ask guests to refrain from taking pictures? Did they abide by that rule?
Post # 3
I did not.
I can 110% assure you digital cameras flashing off did not affect our pro pictures as well.
My friend’s girlfriend, is quite nice, but very in your face. A little clueless (yeah I know all this irrelevant).
Anyway during the cake cutting she was IN OUR FACE taking pictures. Like standing right next to our photographer taking pictures. Her flash was starting to blind us and I could see out of the corner of my eye our photographer patiently waiting for the friend to finish taking pictures before she took pictures. Thankfully she topped taking pictures after a couple shots or I wold have said something. Like seriously?! We paid our photographer good money to be here! Go away with your digital camera! Why is our pro photographer waiting for you to finish taking pictures? Some people have no sense.
Anyway, my point is. Those pictures came out just great! 🙂
Post # 4
I wouldnt say no pictures but I would say please no flash photography and talk to your grandma about her camera. There always seems to a few pictures missed by the photographer that may have been captured by a guest.
Post # 5
Totally agreed on some guests capturing good pictures.
You’re photographer can’t be everywhere and sometimes a guest can happen to be sitting at just the right angle.
Oh good idea about the no flash photography.
Post # 6
I am asking everyone not to take photos of any kind during the ceremony. I have a little note on the website about this, and our officiant will make an announcement before the ceremony. Our photographers will also be well out of the way. I’ll let people do whatever at the reception.
For me, the ceremony is a sacred event. I’m inviting 50 people who are extremely close to us (and 6 of FMILs friends who don’t know us at ALL ), and I want them there because I want them to share the ceremony with us, paying attention to what is being said. I don’t want them messing with their cameras/cellphones trying to get a good shot. Our officiant feels strongly about this, too, so we are able to blame him when anyone seems a little disappointed about the rule.
Post # 7
Honestly? I think it would come across kinda rude to ask guests not to take pictures. You’ve invited them to witness a wonderful time in your life and with digital cameras being EVERYWHERE I think it would be really unrealistic to expect everyone to not use them.
I would have a conversation with your grandmother (or maybe your mom could have it with her), and say something like you’ve hired a professional photographer so that she doesn’t have to be worry/be distracted/ to take pictures for you and you would love to sit with her after the wedding and pick out her favorites to order??
I don’t think a film-camera would really make THAT much noise. Yes, you might hear it but you’ll be focused on much more important matters at hand. I wish I could have a grandmother be at my wedding- loud camera and all. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but just be happy she is there at all.
Post # 8
Guests took pictures at our wedding. It was fine. I didn’t even notice that there were even guests there, I was so wrapped up in getting married and my hubby, so I definetly didn’t get destracted by pictures. Our pro pictures came out great, and it was nice to see pictures from friends and family before we got our pro pics back.
Post # 9
@PinkPinstripes–Film cameras DO make that much noise. Sorry your grandmother couldn’t be there but please don’t make assumptions about others’ familial relationships and tell me to “be happy she is there at all”.
Post # 10
I have to completely agree.
During the ceremony my husband and I had eyes only for each other. We were clueless as to what else was going on besides him and I and our officiant.
We had probably 90 or so people that showed up on time for the ceremony and a TON of kids. So I’m sure there were plenty of distractions. But honestly, we did not notice it.
Post # 11
I had no problem with guests taking pictures of the ceremony because I wanted to see all of the pictures that had been captured. Because the room was so dark, my photographer had told me that she would need to use the flash. I was hoping that by everyone else taking pictures I would have a good variety of photos.
I kind of wish I had let only the photographer take the pictures. There was one guest we had, who my husband invited, that was very rude about picture taking. He was standing up taking pictures during the entire ceremony and blocking everyone else who was trying to record it or take their own pictures. He was also getting in the photographer’s way while she was trying to take pictures of the bridal party before the ceremony because he was right next to her taking pictures along with her, she was a sweetheart so she was patiently waiting for him to take his pictures. Since it was a guest of my husband’s and I didn’t know him I didn’t feel it was my place to say anything. This is what we ended up with when the photographer tried to take a picture of the ceremony as a whole…
Standing in front of my Maid/Matron of Honor
I was so mad when I saw these because I didn’t realize it at all during the ceremony. Then people started complaining to me about him and all I could say was I understand why you are mad. Finally they started complaining to my husband too, and he is flattered that this man was doing this. My husband says that this man thinks of him like a son so it is okay that he did that. Ugh! He hasn’t seen these wedding photos yet.
Post # 12
Wow that guy getting up like that is pretty ridiculous. i can safely say that I have NEVER seen ANYBODY have the audacity to do that. Everybody takes photos from where they are sitting and i’ve never seen anybody get in the way of the photography. When my friend does weddings, while she is posing people or talking to someone in the party, she encourages the grandmas and aunts to snap a few in between of the bride and groom.
Post # 13
It isn’t so much as the extra flashes, though it does change some lighting on the bodies, but it is the distraction factor. As the B+G, bridal party, or family; if you have 1 pro with a 2nd shooter, that is already a little confusing to know which one to look at. Add in the rest of the guests? Eyeballs and faces will be looking everywhere.
As a photographer, I can’t really look back when I back up to change perspective and if there is someone behind me, well I am not going to know about it till I bump them down as I back up. Happened. It wasn’t fun.
It just needs to be put into perspective for the guests. Courtesy and politeness goes a long wayl
Post # 14
@aubray– Thank you for posting this! My mom is on the fence about whether it’s rude or not to tell people not to take pictures. I’m going to show her what you’ve posted. I’m sorry this happened to you, people can be so thoughtless!
Post # 15
We had someone taking photos, but not a professional photog as we did not have the $3,000 all the local photogs wanted for pics. In fact, that was the entire budget for our wedding.
I have to say, we got the BEST pics from some of the guests. I also had the cameras on the tables at the reception, and we got some great candids there as well. My poor brother, who was tasked with taking the photos I wanted, got all of the “formal” shots too, but sometimes they look too posed. Fortunately we have some talented shutterbugs for friends/family too! Something about a little disposable camera seems to bring out the ham in some people 🙂
Post # 16
I didn’t tell people to not take pics, but I did tell people no flash photography (but then again, I said that to my photographer too) and I asked people to respect the photographer and not call to peoples eyes to another spot when the photographer was taking pics.