(Closed) Did you ask your FI's opinion of what they would like to see you in?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Were you surprised by what your FI wanted you to wear?
    Completely! I was not expecting that at all. : (15 votes)
    13 %
    Slightly, but I totally agreed with his taste. : (34 votes)
    29 %
    Please...my FI made his/her opinion very clear. : (6 votes)
    5 %
    Not at all! I already know what my FI likes and would want to see me in. : (64 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 3
    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    He wanted something to show off the boobs, other than that he trusts me to make the decision.

    Post # 4
    2086 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

    I don’t even think the “no” option works for us. πŸ™‚


    My answer:

    No…my fiance tolerated my watching SYTTD, but doesn’t know anything about fashion.

    Post # 5
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    Fiance never went dress shopping with me, but we did look through bridal magazines together.  All he said he’d like to see was a long “tail” lol.  The dress I did buy does have a long train but it isn’t white.  The color is called alabaster (Maggie Sottero) and is almost champagne, I guess.  When I told him that it wasn’t white, he seemed upset.  I had no idea he would have a strong feeling about it.  He’s over it now, but I still have twinges of doubt now and again on if he will like it when he sees me on the wedding day (he has no idea what style of dress I chose, only designer).  

    Post # 6
    2335 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    He told me he wasn’t a fan of mermaid gowns. (To which I decided to completely ignore him- he doesn’t know what he’s talking about. πŸ˜› It’ll be totally different when he sees it on me.)

    Strangely enough? I was convinced I wanted to wear a mermaid gown. I ended up not liking the way they looked on my body and went with a lace and tulle A-line instead. Go figure.

    Post # 7
    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I pretty much knew what he wanted, because he made his opinions very clear.  Unfortunately, that meant that I had to cut out several gorgeous dresses, but I’m happy with the one I picked!

    Post # 8
    1079 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I chose not at all but I have no idea what his opinions are and I don’t really see the need to ask.  πŸ˜‰ Then again, I don’t expect to be consulted on his attire either.

    Post # 9
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I asked him but he wouldn’t tell me! He said he didn’t want to influence my decision because he knew whatever I picked would be beautiful. I kept asking him though, haha and he never told me. He loved the dress I picked though πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’m not sure how to vote. I asked my FI’s opinion, but I only showed him stock pictures of the 5-6 dresses I liked (before trying anything on) and asked him to rate them 1-5 (or 6, I can’t remember now). They were ALL similiar styles, drop waist (except for one), a-line (except for one fit and flare and one ballgown), the ballgown and fit and flare were his last 2 picks. The dress I ended up getting was his number 2 pick, but I am 100% certain if he were to see me in his number 1 he’d have laughed his head off. It did NOT look good on me at ALL!

    I didn’t ask him to find dresses he liked, because I knew he’d get side tracked and focused on who was wearing it, NOT the details of the dresses themselves (I’m 5’3″ and 105 lbs, so I’m not going to look like the models in the picture), plus I didn’t want to give him the chance to pick a style I hated/wouldn’t look good on me, so I limited his selection. He has no idea which dress I got, or if I even got one that I showed him, and honestly, I doubt he’ll remember anyway.

    Post # 11
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    He liked anything that was tight and would show my body. However, I went poofy!

    Post # 12
    1737 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I asked him one day and he said he likes lace. I expected him to hate lace for some reason so I was pleasantly surprised. I love lace! My dress will definitely be a lace dress.

    Then he said that he also likes sleeves. He thinks they are very feminine. I sort of went, “Yeah, ok…” I have tried on a couple of dresses with sleeves and they just do not look right on me. Sorry, FI!

    And he prefers champagne dresses over white/ivory. Wasn’t expecting that, either. Good thing, because I’m definitely wearing color πŸ™‚

    Post # 13
    7445 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I mainly asked him what he didn’t want to see me in.

    Post # 14
    549 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    oh boy… i didn’t really even discuss with him because i wanted to appear cool and confident about the whole dress thing and just blow him away on our wedding day. now i’m wondering if i should have asked more specifically what he’d like to see…? am i naive in thinking that he will love how i look on our wedding day no matter what? eek!

    he did give one comment to me at one point, which kind of stuck… i mentioned (i think before i even tried my first dress) that i didn’t want a big pouffy gown bc it felt way too showy for me and he agreed that it would be weird/out of character. i tried on some ball gowns i totally loved … but ultimately i chose a fitted dress because it felt more like something i would feel confident and like myself in and i think he’ll appreciate that aspect of it most of all.

    Post # 15
    1076 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Yes he loves ball gowns for some reason

    I show him pics of the dresses that don’t work out but I have a feeling that’s gonna backfire if I decide to go back to a particular dress. 

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