@MexiPino: I included mine. I told DH right from the start, if he wanted his sister’s in the wedding, I’m more than happy to have them be BM’s, but I didn’t know if I was going to ask them if he didn’t care– mostly because I didn’t even want a wedding party, but DH DID- so I had to have at least a few girls.
Initially he said he didn’t really care- because he’s super laid back. But once it was decided that my younger brother be a Groomsmen, we decided it was only right that his sister’s be in the wedding as well.
Thier schedules are impossible- one works 2 jobs, the other used to, but she had a baby a month before the wedding. One lives about 50 minutes away, the other lives about 30 minutes away.
My SILs were the reason we were late for pics on our wedding day :/
And one of them apparently got SO drunk 1.5 hours into the reception, that she had to leave.
DH doesn’t get upset easily, but he was so disappointed in his sister, and he shared this with her the next morning. We got ONE photo of the wedding party together- which didn’t even include my son (RB) or our Flower Girl. And with her missing for the whole evening, that was it.
So while I feel like they sort of cotributed to the negative aspects of the day, I still don’t know if I would have had it any other way.
If you husband wants his sister(s) to be part of the wedding, I suggest you take it into consideration. This is BOTH of your guys’ wedding day- not just yours. Even if you don’t have a brother to be a GM- I still think it’s a nice gesture towards your FH- if it’s something he has requested.
If he never mentioned anything about it, I would say that you shouldn’t feel the need to have FSIL’s in the wedding. But he did, and he’s going to be your husband!