(Closed) Did you ask your FSIL(s) to be bridesmaids?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Did you ask your FSIL(s) to be your bridesmaid(s)?

    Yes, and we are close

    Yes, though we are not close

    No, though we are close

    No, and we are NOT close

  • Post # 62
    522 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I’m going to ask one of my FI’s cousins. He doesn’t have a sister, but he has three cousins and I’m pretty close to one of them, so I’m asking her. I would ask the others if he wanted me to. He’s having my brother as a groomsman.

    Post # 63
    8574 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Yes, and we aren’t super close. But we do talk here and there.

    Post # 64
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Nope, and I have one on each side- DH’s sister, and my brother’s wife. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my brother’s first wedding, but not his second (I did a reading.) My brother did a reading at my wedding. DH wasn’t in his sister’s wedding.

    So my two cents is NO, siblings don’t have to be in the wedding. I made nosegays for my SILs, as a little some extra nice. The smaller the bridal party the easier (I only had two.)

    Post # 65
    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @MexiPino:  DON’T DO IT!

    You already know that they’re a pain to deal with – making them BMs will most likely lead to major stress, frustration and resentment.

    Post # 68
    33 posts
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Yes, I did and she’s not exactly gracefully participating… It’s important to my Fiance though. As long as she shows up and doesn’t get hammered I’ll call it a win.

    Post # 69
    131 posts
    Blushing bee

    Nope. Future Sister-In-Law and I aren’t exactly “close” but we get along just fine. I have only met her a handful of times (his family lives 8 hours from mine) and there have never been any issues when we were together. She’s also a lot younger than we are. I don’t think Fiance himself even asked me about it.

    Post # 70
    799 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    No. One of his sisters recently got married and made sure it was okay that I wasnt in the wedding and then begged me when she needed me for even sides. I refused. He knows his sisters annoy the ever living crap out of me and I dont like them so its okay that they aren’t in it. Its enough for me to just be around them. 

    Post # 71
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013


    yes, Mother-In-Law said if i didnt it would be a huge thing and she would be offended. so i did and she was. and she sucked at one. she was happy she was one but yeah she totally sucked as a Bridesmaid or Best Man. i think she was jealous.. ohhhh and this isnt DHs sister its my BILs wife. so a little different but DH didnt ask my brother to be a Groomsmen. i had kind of wished i totally didnt ask her. she kind of made a little trouble, and then also got ready some where else and had her hair exactly like mine. funny thing was i was having such a good time i didnt even notice till i looked at all our pictures… and she knew exactly how i was going to wear it ,that the Bridesmaid or Best Man were suppose to be the opposite. we had started out as friends years ago but she turned herself into a huge frienemy. she didnt help at all except she did make the boutonnieres, without me asking, and they were kind of ugly…. but i didnt have the heart to say anything so we used them… there is apart of me that wondered if she made them ugly on purpose..

    Post # 72
    2452 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @MexiPino:  How many of them are there? I have one brother, so I definitely would expect my future husband to include him in the wedding party, but if someone has 3 sisters for example…that’s going to bump up the bridal party number significantly. Even though I personally feel like there’s no harm that can be done from having more people in the bridal party, I can understand how some people would like to keep the bridal party smaller and more intimate.

    Post # 73
    985 posts
    Busy bee

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    Post # 74
    8469 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I asked 1. He’s got many sisters, so we decided on who to ask. She’s pretty much the closest with him than the others. Everything worked out fine. We go out with her & her husband from time to time. They live about 45 minutes away from us. 

    Post # 76
    6518 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @MexiPino:  yes i asked both FSILs to be in the wedding. But one backed out bc she got pregnant (she wasnt even trying). It just happened. But she was still helpful and involved in the planning and offered me her headpiece. 

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