Post # 31
I did buy my bridesmaid’s dresses. In my area bridesmaids usually are expected to pay for them and my girls could have afforded them, but I didn’t think it was right to ask someone to be in my wedding and then ask them to pay for it. We are also paying for all of the tuxes. I know this is unpopular, but I think that if you have to ask people to spend money to be with you on your day, then you shouldn’t be having a wedding. But that’s probably just me. Also the last wedding I was in probably cost me about $1500, and that bride will be in my wedding. Just because she didn’t pay for my stuff doesn’t mean I shouldn’t pay for hers.
Post # 32
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Yes, we paid for all wedding-related expenses for our bridal party. The way we saw it was that us choosing to get married should not be a financial burden on the people we love. We paid for attire, travel and lodging, and meals for our bridal party.
Post # 33
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
It’s the norm in my area for the girls to buy their own dresses. On that note, I found these awesome dresses from shopruche.com that were only $20!!! No pics bc of the update to WB, now I don’t have like any of my pics 🙁 🙁 🙁
Post # 34
I bought the dresses -I found them on sale for only $25 (marked down from $150), but I also gave them the option to wear their own dress if they didn’t like the one I bought (at their expense). I only have the two bridesmaids and I don’t care if they match. I just want them to feel and look beautiful. They both loved the dress I bought and will be wearing that one. I am just so happy that it is one expense they will not have worry about. It’s my wedding afterall, not theirs. So I felt along that covering the cost was my responsibility. I know that in the U.S. the expense is typically passed onto the Wedding Party, I just don’t agree with it. Maybe b/c I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man too many times. However, I think choice is as important as cost (maybe even moreso).
We are also paying for the tuxes for the men. We found it is less expensive to buy the tuxedos than to rent them. All the Wedding Party are responsible for alterations and their own shoes.
Post # 35
+1 to @futuremrsslp
It’s also typical in my area for the Bridal Party to pay for their own attire, however since we chose to do a destination wedding (albeit a relatively inexpensive one) it still cost our friends ~$500 to travel to it. We wanted to alleviate that cost for them, so we bought all of the apparel. Plus, it just makes more sense to me – we chose a destination wedding to keep things low(er) stress but we didn’t want to make things MORE stressful for our bridal party!
The girls’ dresses were $60/ea from Modcloth (like @futuremrsslp) w/ shoes from Nordstrom’s and the boys’ suits were buy one get all the rest 1/2 off from Men’s Warehouse. (With shirts from Macy’s, Suspenders from Amazon, and Bow ties from JCP).
For pics see: http://saltandlightphoto.com/blog/?p=1867
Post # 36
Just out of curiosity, is it showing up to everyone else as me being the first person to post in this thread (the first post on page 1)? That’s how it’s showing up to me but I posted a while after it was started. So I’m wondering if it’s just my computer or a glitch. Thanks!
Post # 37
Nope, they bought their dresses and shoes. I am paying for makeup and their jewerly. They can elect to get mani/pedis, spray tans and hair done with me by professionals but those are elective and they would pay.
Post # 38
Yes… so sorry I responded back to you if you weren’t the OP. :/
Post # 39
We are paying for 3 out of the 5 dresses due to hardship issues. It is not the norm where I am from nor in the weddings I’ve participated in but I’ll do whatever it takes to get them to stand up for us.
Post # 40
You appeared to be the OP on my comp. Yikes!
Post # 41
Because I am being very lax with the colour, style, and even designer (they all got to pick a colour from a palette of shades I chose, and can now each choose any style as long as it’s knee-length and a silky-type fabric), I am not paying for their dresses. My hope is that they are something that will have re-wear value for each of them. I was in a wedding last summer where the bride did the same thing – gave us a palette of shades and a fabric, and let us choose a colour and style. I have re-worn that dress three times now! So I don’t feel bad about the money I spent on it at all.
I am covering the cost of their hair, make-up, and night-of accommodations for the ones coming from out-of-town. Hopefully this will keep the financial burden fairly light! I really don’t expect them to pay for or do anything else…I’m just excited to have them standing next to me on the big day and have their emotional support throughout the whole crazy process.
Post # 42
I’ve been in quite a few weddings and the bride has never picked up the cost of the bridesmaid dresses. Most of the girls whose weddings I was in are now my bridesmaids–and they are paying for their dresses. I tried to keep it as inexpensive as possible and let them choose the style/cut so at least they had some say.
Post # 43
That’s okay!! Don’t worry about it – you didn’t know 🙂
Thanks! I thought maybe my computer was going crazy haha.
Post # 44
I’m not buying my bridemaid’s dresses- but I am letting them pick their own since they are paying. I’m just asking them to stick to a certain colour scheme (blush/blossom pink). That way they can pick a dress they like and perhaps use again. And anyway I prefer the mismatched look 🙂