Post # 1
Hi bees!! I need some advice!
I’ve currently been at my job for over 2 years now, and while it’s OK, it’s not very fulfilling, and is very stressful. Most of the people here are ok, but I’m just sick of dealing with certain things here. For example, I work alone, my boss does nothing but pile more work on me and I end up doing over half of his work. I’ve asked for them to hire someone to help (which I was told would happen over a year ago) but it’s not looking like that will happen. I’m incredibly stressed out at work, and it’s affecting me at home too. I was planning to wait until after the wedding to hunt for a new job, but I saw a few openings in my area that I qualify for and was thinking about applying.
Here’s what I am concerned about:
1. Vacation time–We are taking off for our honeymoon right after the wedding and will be gone for a week. At my current job, I only accrue vaca time monthly and am trying to save up enough for my honeymoon. If I don’t have enough time to cover the full week, I’ll just use what I got. (I can be short a little on pay, but I can’t afford to not get paid for an entire week–does that make sense?) I’m worried that if I change jobs, I’ll end up having to take the whole week off without pay. How did this work out for you?
2. Stating the fact that I’m getting married and will need to take that time off. Do I tell them up front in the interview, or wait until I get hired?
I’m just really over working here and while I know my wedding is not far away, it seems like forever when you hate your job. 🙁
Post # 3
You should tell them that you have a vacation planned. That way they can tell you your options such as how many days you will accrue by that time and if taking it unpaid is an option.
I didn’t change jobs but my sis in law did. She moved about two weeks before the wedding, got married, and then started a new job the Monday following her wedding. I know they waited a few months to before they went on their honeymoon. I think her job might be a little more flexible with time off as long as she meets her billable hours each year. I know she got 16 weeks off for maternity leave but I saw her working at home often.
Post # 4
@profiterole: Thanks! I’m just really nervous about making a change like this so close to the wedding. Stability is my friend. LOL
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I know quite a few people who started new jobs and then had to attend weddings out of the country or state for family members (sister etc.) and they did have to take the leave without pay. This is common practice for any government employer and for many private sector jobs as well where you earn vacation. My job, I wasn’t allowed any paid time off until I had put in 6 months even though I was earning it.
I have had a lot of people tell me about these things during a final interview. They will ask when I want them to start and then mention their already planned trip etc. Most places are usually accommodating for letting you have the time off but it may not be paid.
Post # 6
I changed a couple months before being officially engaged. When they were offering me the job on the second interview, I decided to be open with them about my plans. It worked in my favor.
Post # 7
@Ms_Purple: OK, thank you!
Post # 8
@MissCountryGirl727: this is something i’ve been dealing with. my job is super lame and boring (hence why i post to the bee so much during the day and not as much in the evening or at night), but im not planning on leaving until after the wedding so i can use the 10 vacation days i have by the wedding for the week-of and the honeymoon (run on sentence sorry!) however, though i’m not actively looking, when i see a job posting and i just can’t pass up the opportunity to apply, i do it. i’ve decided if one of those ‘dream’ jobs calls me for an interview, i’m going to be up front and tell them i’m getting married in october and i plan to be off from the 9th – 21st. some places start you with vacation time as part of your hiring package, so i’d probably try to negotiate for that IF i were offered a position.
Post # 9
I’m hoping to find a new job ASAP, so it will likely be shortly before the wedding if not after. I do not plan to tell the new employer this information before negotiations begin.
Post # 10
You can definitely let them know that you will need time off during on those certain dates. I would, however, not say it is for your wedding. They might think you will get pregnant immediately after and take maternaty leave.
Post # 11
I would consider looking for jobs and letting new employers know you can start October 1 (or whatever day you want to start working after your honeymoon). Put in your two weeks notice two weeks before your wedding, and then you should have the pay from unused vacation days to cover the time you’re taking off for the wedding.
I did this last year with a big trip my fiance and I were taking (a friend’s wedding in London, and I’d never been to Europe, so we made a 3-week vacation of it).
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
Another thought, I applied for my job in April, started in September! Some jobs do not make you start right away or the application/interview process can take awhile. I find this is especially true in the summer when employers are also on vacations etc. I applied in April, interviewed in July, accepted in August, started September.
You can always apply and see what happens.
Post # 13
I interviewed in February and start July 1, my wedding is the end of September. It’s a high level position, so they had no issues in me taking time off for my wedding/honeymoon and I didn’t think they would. It really just depends on the job and whether you have to work a certain # of hours/week and how much sick/vacation time you have. Definitely worth starting to apply!
Post # 14
@MissCountryGirl727: I did, sort of. My Fiance and I had a loose timeline of July (elopement) … but then I got offered a fantastic new job and I start on Monday! I talked about this a little on another thread. Anyway, I don’t feel like I can peace out for a week one month after I start so now we’re looking at the fall :/ Fiance is a professor and can’t really miss classes during the week and since we are going to a courthouse we cannot do it on a weekend … and the honeymoon will have to be a few months later (Napa!) but [shrug]. I hated my old job so we will just deal with this!
Good luck whatever you decide to do! It will all work out! 🙂
Post # 15
I started a new job in December, I got married in May. I didn’t tell them I was engaged (didn’t wear my ring – I am of the belief that as a career-minded woman this is the best course even if it’s not fair) and planned honeymoon until I had the offer. I got the offer, and got their agreement before I accepted it. They were fine with it. My vacation time kicked in when I started so I was good, but that’s not always the case. You can ask how that works when they make you the offer and then decide. I wouldn’t ask in an interview, then it seems like all you care about is vacation.
Post # 16
@PumpkinCheesecake: Good point!!
Thanks for your advice ladies!! I was very emotional and overwhelmed with everything yesterday (work stress, wedding stress). Fiance and I talked about it last night. He’s so supportive and told me I should do what I feel is best for me. He said he’d hate that I could possibly not have vacation time for our honeymoon, but in the end, we’ll be OK if that were to happen. I figure applying wouldn’t hurt anything, just to see what these other places have to offer me.