I am sorry, but that ring is just about ridiculous! And from what I can tell, is not to your taste at all. I am a super girly girl and wanted a delicate, feminine ring…but that is just too much, even for me. Like you said, it is sweet that he put so much time and effort into the design of the ring…but he did not put much time and effort into considering what your style is. And…I am assuming that if he had put less time and (likely) money into the setting, he could have gotten you a slightly bigger diamond.
My Fiance and I actually picked out the ring together, but boy does a .5 carat diamond look bigger in the perfect jewelry store lighting than it does in real life. And I felt restricted because he had given me a 2,000 budget, which is just insane considering I wanted an intricate setting AND a decently sized diamond. At the time he purchased the ring (for $3,000, which was, granted, over his initial budget), he was making a decent salary, but I was still not happy with what he budgeted for the ring because I felt like he could have put a lot more towards it, but he chose rather to spend his money on toys for himself (like a 25,000 dollar truck -_-).
Anyways, he knows that I have been unhappy with the size of my diamond. And since he got a new job with a nice pay increase about two weeks ago, he finally agreed to upgrade my ring as my Christmas present this year (which was actually his idea, not mine). He even came out said that my diamond was pretty pitiful, which makes me think that he has been feeling pretty bad about not putting in the money he knew he could have. This whole thing makes him sound like a terd. He isn’t, by the way….he just doesn’t like to spend his money on things he doesn’t see as super important/necessary. He couldn’t understand why I cared so much about an engagement ring because, in his words, it is just a symbol. But why, if he can afford it, should I settle for a symbol of love that costs significantly less than the symbol of love he has for his new truck?! XD
I feel like this all over the place. But basically, he realizes now just how important the ring is to me, how much weight I do put on it as a symbol of our love. To him, it was silly to spend more than 2,000 dollars on a piece of metal, but like you said, it is a piece of metal I intend to wear for the rest of my life, and it would be nice to really and truly love it and not feel like I have to say so just so it won’t hurt his feelings. So yes, after he puts in a week or two at his new job, we are going to go back to the jeweler and see what we can do about this diamond. I don’t even want a huge diamond! I would be moooore than happy with something that falls between .75 and a carat.
Sorry I couldn’t offer any actual advice 🙁 But maybe it helps to know that you are not alone and not crazy for wanting a ring that DOES represent your love and a ring that you CAN love as well.