Did you choose your engagement ring?

posted 1 year ago in Rings
Post # 76
24 posts
  • Wedding: June 2018

Yes, we went to a few jewelry stores together and I decided I liked baguettes. He ended up designing the ring (it’s a class style but there are a few little details that we wanted that other rings didn’t have) and I gave feedback every step of the. But as for the diamond, I said I liked slightly smaller than 1 carat and he did all the rest of choosing the exact diamond. I don’t know how much this diamond, or the ring in total, cost. 

Post # 77
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

He chose the ering completely on his own… and he kind of blew it undecided I had no idea at all, and we had never discussed erings before, so he went with what kind jewelry I normally wear… only I wanted something completely different as an ering…. I just wish he had asked me before he got it.

Post # 78
869 posts
Busy bee

simplebee92 :  My setting is similar to the first ring. Its a reset of my original ring from almost 30 years ago! Just got it a couple of months ago and I just love it. 

I picked out my own ring (then & now) and he picked out his, although we shopped together. We also paid for them together from a joint account we set up for wedding stuff. 

Post # 79
902 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We never had any discussion about budget, but we both seemed to have a similar idea in mind because Darling Husband wasn’t shocked when I pointed out two that I really loved while we were at a store.  After I’d been sized, he ended up asking me to step away for a few minutes.  I was pretty surprised when he ended up choosing and ordering it on the spot! 

Post # 80
3042 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

No. We discussed styles enough that he could pick out something that wasn’t visually offensive to me, but it isn’t really my style. I tried talking to him about resetting it for our tenth anniversary, but he was so upset about the implication that I wasn’t completely in love with his “timeless and elegant” choice that I dropped the subject. 

Post # 81
855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

He picked it out by himself! We had gone into a few jewelry stores together so I could see what I liked on my finger, and then I kept showing him the style I like on James Allen. He told me what his budget was so I could focus in that price range (he paid for it himself). But he wanted to pick out the ring on his own and wanted to pick out a ring I hadn’t specifically told him I liked before, so he picked something slightly different and more unique than a lot of the ones I liked!

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Post # 82
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Canadian Rockies

I chose mine πŸ™‚ He proposed with a ring that he chose, which will be the backup ring, for things like vacations. (It’s more understated) He told me the budget and to pick a ring I really liked. I ended up being way under budget, but that’s not too bad – next up is the wedding band! It’s funny bc he didn’t realize that most women wear both rings at all times.. and that gemstone rings are a thing πŸ˜‰ Anyway, I’m glad I got to choose.

This is my 9x9mm cushion lab sapphire with white sapphire halo





Post # 83
50 posts
Worker bee

We chose it together. We have both been looking at rings for about a year. I had actually tried this one on last March, but continued shopping around, because it was so pricey and we weren’t committed to getting a ring back then. Fast forward a year and about a million rings later and we just kept coming back to this one. We compared every other ring to it and realized this was “the one”. But, I looked at the web site for the designer and our local jeweler where I had initially tried it on and it was no longer available on either site! I got a hold of our local jeweler and our rep was able to track one down for me. Thank goodness!!! Then we just had to research and choose a moissanite for the center, which was a whole other production. But I finally got the finished ring last week!



Post # 84
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

simplebee92 :  He was already in the process of getting my ring made when I sent him a picture of my dream ring. I did not know at the time that he had already purchased one and it was being made. He called the jeweler in mid production of the ring he chose, and had them make a new one that looked like the pic I sent. So I guess I chose my ring?

Post # 85
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

He designed my ring without me, but he did it based on things he knew I liked (purple sapphires/black diamonds/cushion cuts) it is wonderful and unique, but not exactly what I would have picked for myself but I love how much thought he put into it. When I went to have it resized the designer was telling me how much time he spent describing me to her and discussing through dozens of emails exactly how he wanted it to look.



Post # 86
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Last year for my birthday my partner gave me a lovely aquamarine ring that I’d found in an antique jewellery shop but he made clear that he’d want to choose the engagement ring rather than have me tell him what I wanted. We’d discussed a timeline and had agreed to wait until we’d lived together for half a year but I just couldn’t wait any longer and proposed on Christmas Eve.

A while later I asked if he by any chance had already bought a ring for me, too, since it had been a bit of a joke between us who’d be the first to ask. He said no but told me he did want to get me a ring. So I waited. 

More than a month later I made an appointment with a jeweller to design our wedding rings and asked my partner whether he had chosen a ring. It mattered because I wanted to make sure the wedding ring and the engagement ring were made of the same metal. Still, no ring from him. So I asked if he thought he knew what I’d like and he said that I’d told him to just go to the same antique shop again since they always have lots of things I like.

The story continues… the shop has a website so I suggested we both make a shortlist of rings and it turned out he really had no idea what I’d like πŸ˜‰ There were only 2 rings in his list I actually liked. This made him realize that my taste is a bit more difficult that he had thought and so he suggested we should go to the shop together und pick something. And that’s what we did.

Our budget was 500$ which to Americans must sound horribly cheap but in Germany engagement rings aren’t really a big thing and many people don’t get one at all. We went to my beloved antique shop and looked at a lot of rings in that price range, I then chose three of them and he made the final choice. It was the only ring that had been on both of our lists.

I like it very much – it’s nice and sparkly and vintage-y but small enough to wear every day.6fe09a47-994f-4fed-b9e1-09b897e40235_(2)

Post # 87
7 posts
  • Wedding: September 2019

haha um funny you should ask, I went to a trial engagement ring website myringonline and just got a carat kit for around 100 dollars and choose my carat size from that, and also the setting and shape. I’m the one that has to wear it!!!!

Post # 88
56 posts
Worker bee

we picked my e-ring together.   we went to jewerly expo and got lots of diamon education by GIA jewerler. 

so we both had our own requirements for the e-ring. finally we found it.  πŸ™‚

Post # 89
11 posts

We discussed a budget together, but I picked out the ring. I’m definitely not a picky person but I do use my hands a lot & work with kids. My soon-to-be fiance basically told me that since I’m the one wearing it, he wanted to make sure he bought something that I would absolutely LOVE & actually wear. I did ask for his opinion for a few details (4 vs 6 prong style, 14k vs 18k metal, etc) but the stone cut/size and band design were all chosen by me. He actually called me to confirm all of the details while he was purchasing the ring. He hasn’t formally proposed yet, but we’ve also already chosen a date to announce to our engagement. We both have been so excited & happy throughout this process & couldn’t imagine doing it any other way!

Post # 90
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

YEP! I proposed to my fiancée and we both went to buy our engagement rings together. 

Mine is a 0.85ct, F coloured, pear solitaire with talon claws. I love it so much. (Please ignore gross nails…)

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