(Closed) Did you choose your engagement ring or did hubby?

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Did you pick out your engagement ring or did your fiance/husband surprise you with one?

    I picked it out.

    My fiance/husband picked it out.

    We picked it out together (joint effort!)

  • Post # 62
    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I’m more of a shopper and love doing the research on big purchases…so we both read up and shopped together, although I probably became more obsessed and learned way too much about rings! We ended up finding the ring in a vintage jewelry store, and we have a picture of ourselves there after we made the big purchase.

    Post # 63
    138 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We knew we would order on BlueNile, so I picked the setting and he knew what kind of stone I wanted. But when the time came we were together in picking it out to make sure it was perfect. =D

    Post # 64
    1601 posts
    Bumble bee

    We were driving around one night and we passed by a jewlery store and my Fiance said, hey, maybe we can go there soon. We made an appointment later that month. It was between a 1.07, and 1.34. My ring is a 1.34 VSII F colour. We picked it out together, I was not even sure I wanted a solitaire but my Mom and family were suggesting when I wasn’t sure what I wanted. We had the ring made, I tried it on for size, and my fiance picked it up. I knew he was going to propose because he took me away over night to a Victorian hotel (I had to tell my Dad because I was still living at home and he is very traditional). So I knew when it was coming. It was still perfect though.

    Post # 65
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Stranger516:  first he asked me what kind of ring I wanted, and I said I wanted a sapphire. After a few months he took me out to try on some rings he had selected, I didn’t pick but he said my face lit up when I tried on one (which was the one he preffered to) so I think that’s what he got me (it’s somewhere here in  the house.. not sure where!)

    So I guess he picked it

    Post # 66
    1844 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

      Ours was somewhat of a joint effort. We looked in a store together, and he saw ideas of what I liked. He told me that he wasn’t going to get the exact ring I picked out. I was a little bummed, but I kept it quiet. This was one part he got to choose, after all.

      He proposed about a year after ring shopping. He ended up getting the ring that I had picked out! He said that he saw my face light up when I put it on, and he knew that was it. It’s a beautiful setting, plus the center diamond is from my mom’s ring from my dad. I love the sentimental piece behind it!

    Post # 67
    3263 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I told Fiance what sort of stone specs I’d like and showed him some bands I liked. He hated all the bands, but upped the specs of the stone and picked out a band he really liked. When I accidentally found out what the ring looked like (long story), I wasn’t sure if I liked it. But the more I saw it the more I liked it. Now I can’t imagine anything else. This ring is perfect for me.

    Post # 68
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    He picked out my engagement ring which I love! I wasn’t a huge fan of the wedding band that went with it though so I picked out a different one.

    Post # 69
    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Ours seemed to be a joint effort. I knew that I wanted a rectangular radiant center stone, the band I was iffy on, but I knew I didn’t want a plain band. After going ring shopping with one of my friends (I had a weird thing about not wanting to see him with the ring till he actually asked me), I decided I wanted the Rectangular Radiant Center stone with a micropave 3/4 way around the band.

    The proposal came and Mr. D had picked out a Rectangular Radiant Center Stone with two princess cut side stones…after the shock and excitement of getting engaged I was a little upset that it wasn’t the one I had wanted, but after time I’ve grown to love it. He said that when he saw the setting he thought of me, guess you can’t really argue with that ๐Ÿ™‚

    Now I just have no idea what to do for a wedding band, side stones threw me off big time! lol

    I would definitely give him an inclination of what you want, especially for the main stone. If your heart is really set on one particular style, then definitely let him know! Good luck and have fun ๐Ÿ™‚


    Post # 71
    38 posts
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We looked at rings for “fun” at the beginning of the year. Stopping in stores and trying stuff on. She has a size 4 finger so we wanted to see what was a good size. She loved a Halo and at one point a 3 stone halo but they just looked ridiculous on her small fingers and they touched her pinky and middle finger. Then we went online and she showed me what she liked and didnt like and then i would go on websites to see if i got her taste down. I would pick out the top three I thought she would like and she would confirm if I am getting a better idea of her taste. This was all in the “fun” stage.


    Then we went real shopping months later. She loved a Verragio and i could tell so I asked the store to make up some lie the day after about how there would be a long lead time and there would be a custom fee and the model she liked wouldnt fit her size stone she wanted (1.5ct) etc.So she dropped the idea out of her head


    So then we went to places to try to design custom rings and stuff and she thought she was going to get a custom one we designed together but I got her the Verragio instead. She was surprised and loves it so much!

    Post # 72
    3339 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    To ensure you get what you want, tell your boyfriend what you’d like.  I knew I wanted a silver (whether platinum or white gold) Tacori ring with a round, briliiant cut diamond, about 1 carat, with four prongs holding it up (not the traditional six).

    He ended up buying me this gorgeous white gold ring encrusted with 58 diamonds plus the solitaire.  The center stone is .9 carats but it’s a beautiful colorless diamond with VVS inclusions.  The total band weight is a little over 1 carat.  It’s the most gorgeous thing I’ve ever seen, and it’s Tacori!  ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 73
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    He picked it out, but somehow knew all on his own exactly what I wanted. I was amazed. It’s part of the reason I said “Yes!” Not because I wanted the pretty ring, but because I was so impressed and touched that he found a ring that matched my personality so perfectly. It was truly a ring for ME, and not just a ring a guy would pick out for any old girl.

    Post # 74
    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Lake Taghkanic State Park

    We had been sort of talking about it for about two years before he proposed so he had a pretty good idea of what I liked, we looked around a lot and I sent him a lot of ideas. But ultimately he and my mom picked it out, so it was still a huge surprise! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 75
    3339 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    Oh, one more thing.  I also trained him so that he’d know what I like in general when it comes to fashion and style.  If we were ever in a mall or jewelry store walking past a display case, I’d stop and say, “What’s my favorite thing in this case?”  He’d pick something, and then I’d point out what my favorite actually was.  Then we’d move on to the next case and do it again.

    The key here is to make it fun and like a game.  We never went out with that specific objective in mind.  It was always spontaneous.  If we happened to be in a store, I’d just casually ask him.  He loves games and challenges, so he always played along.

    Eventually, he was always able to pick out what I liked best.  I’m sure that that helped a lot when it came to picking out the ring.  It also guarantees that any other jewelry you receive (necklaces, earrings, etc) will always be 100% your style.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 76
    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    We didn’t go ring shopping at all!  My Fiance picked out my ring all on his own (didn’t take any friends or his mom or my friends or my mom with him).  He had bought me earrings and a necklace for gifts previously, so he knew that princess cut and white gold was the way to go. 

    Honestly I’m very proud my Fiance picked my ring out on his own. He did a great job – not only do people compliment me on it all the time but (more importantly) I LOVE it.   His proposal came as a complete surprise to me…which made it even more special.

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