Post # 1
Really this is out there. But I am just having a hard time with everything!
Did anyone else make their wedding location/site choice simple because it is easier for family and friends?
We chose to have our wedding in the DFW area because it was closest to our family and friends. Therefore less people will have to travel. But now I am starting to worry that this isn’t really us! We are simple, romantic, mushy couple, who loves the water and the beach! Hence why we live at the beach. But we chose not to have it here where we live because of the number of people that will have to travel!
We tired to lower the number of the guest but the problem is his family is just so close and he has a lot of really close friends.
I feel so much aniexty over this and it is a YEAR AWAY! What is wrong with me!
Post # 3
I definitely did. I picked the city location because it’s mot convenient for most of my family and friends…and I picked the actual venue because it is both close to, and very easy to get to from my church where the wedding ceremony is taking place.
Looking back, I think I should’ve branched out a little further from my comforst zone to make sure I’d gotten a venue I really love instead of one that was easy to drive to! There’s always a happy medium between convenience and other considerations (like if you love the venue or not, it’s affordably, they have the features you’re looking for)
Post # 4
It’s really hard planning a wedding… period. Especially when you’re trying to please everyone at the same time!!
We’re getting married in a place 6 hours away from us and our friends and family. It may not be "convenient" for everyone (including us) but its
a. personal to us (my aunts house)
b. surrounded by beautiful river views
c. no rental fee
d. we can do whatever we want!! (within reason)
It may be somewhat of a hassle but in the end it’ll be well worth it.
To give you some advice, dont lose yourselves in this whole process!! If you dont think your wedding reflects YOU, you will end up regretting it when its all over. Pick a place that fits YOU. Also you said you have a year to go. Thats plenty of time to let people know about your plans so that they can save money. The ones that really want to be there, will be there no matter what!! We have family thats driving from TX to NY just to be there with us!
Post # 5
We had considered a bunch of locations up on the North Shore (Lake Superior) and around the BWCA, but just stuck with the city we live in. Most of our families, when we mentioned the semi-destination idea, were really excited so I don’t THINK it would have been a problem, but for a lot of our friends who have moved, I felt guilty asking them to fly in AND drive 4+ hours. I’m happy with it because we LOVE Minneapolis, but sometimes I do get a little wistful thinking of my northwoods wedding that might have been 🙂 It was a really hard decision though.
Post # 6
We compromised a little on our destination wedding plans and are very happy with our decision.
I had always dreamed of going off to some Caribbean Island. Then we thought about places you could go without a passport (Hawaii, Puerto Rico). Finally we decided we wanted to do North Carolina cause we had vacationed their with family. We first thought about the Outer Banks, but like Minneapolitan, didn’t want people to have to fly then drive 4 hours. So we decided on a place in NC with a small airport and a lovely beach/resort area.
We had talked about doing it in Chicago ("there’s beaches here!") but in the end, it really wasn’t "us".
Good luck with your decision and you still have some time to change your mind 🙂
Post # 7
If I could have had my wedding where I wanted, it would be in Portland, OR, as that would have reflected us as a couple. However, we are having our wedding in Chicago instead. And, to ease problems with traffic and parking fees, we are having it in the suburbs not far from my parent’s house. I still found a venue, after quite a bit of searching, that is the closest I found to us (it has a bit of a Pacific Northwest feel because of all the trees and nature surrounding the venue).
When it comes down to it, I figured that having it in Chicago made the most sense as a central location because most of our friends are in Chicago, and even those travelling from out of town Chicago would be in the middle. Although there is always a lot of talk about having your wedding represent you as a couple, I also think weddings are about celebrating family and friends, and so by putting relationships more center than trying to show our personality, it might make it easier to swallow some of the compromises you have to make. Even if your wedding isn’t at the beach, you can try to bring as much of that into your wedding anyway with your theme or little touches, so you can still try to have a little bit of everything, even if you can’t have it all!
Post # 8
We had my wedding in Atlanta (where I grew up) because it would be much more convenient to my husband’s family and all our family friends. My family is from Canada so they were flying in no matter what, but Atlanta has a huge international airport, and once they got there they could all stay at my parents’ house for free, which was a significant savings in hotel and food bills. Also, I had a relatively short engagement and my mom basically planned my wedding, and we wouldn’t have gotten it together so quickly if I had been doing it myself in DC. Altogether it was the best decision even though there are lots of fantasy destination weddings I wanted too.
Post # 9
i’m struggling with this issue too!! there is a reception venue i LOVE but am considering scrapping that idea because i’m afraid its not very convenient for some of our guests. ( its right outside the city, so the people that live downtown will have no trouble but for those that don’t the traffic can be bad!!) BUT I LOVE THE VENUE!!! i am still not sure what we’ll do. 🙁
Post # 10
We have a lot of out of towners coming to our wedding, so I wanted to make it as easy as possible for everyone involved. Easy for our guests to get around and easy for us not having to answer a billion questions near the wedding day. We picked accomodations that provide shuttle service to and from the air port and to and from the wedding. Our ceremony and reception will be at the same locations so that people won’t have to travel. I think people will appreciate that immensely!